girl in my class

[quizkiddonnie]

last semester I went up to a girl in my class and got her number. We both have similar interests and after hanging out around campus a few times and talking more, I started to feel like we were a good match. I definitely felt like she was interested in me. Then over the winter break, she went back to her country to visit her family, so I let her be and gave her space. Now the new semester has started and I've been hanging around campus a lot, but I haven't seen her
. I texted her asking how her break was, she said it was a wonderful break and I told her maybe I'd see her around campus soon and she could tell me about it. She responded with a "thumbs up" emoticon. I think if I just wait around campus then i'm bound to bump into her. Its only been one week since classes started again. I'm really anxious to see her again but I don't want to seem like I need her. I like the idea of doing my own thing and then whatever happens happens, not trying to force anything. She has really grown on me though and I'm afraid if she doesn't want to date, then I'll be really let down.

 

[Xion]

I also have a similar problem. There's this girl in my class and helps me with many things even though I don't ask her to. She is so nice to me!!! I also have noticed that she helps me more than she helps others.
As a result of this, I have completely fallen in love with her. But I can't just bring myself to ask her out. If she rejects me, i will be DOOMED!! And I will never recover from it. I think thats why i can't ask her out.
In your case, I just want to say that the safest way is to never ask her out if you are unsure. But if you continue waiting to ask her out, she might get taken by the another guy. If you REALLY want to date her, then you should ask her out before any other guy does even if you are unsure about her answer. Approach with full confidence.
I know that you would be devastated if she say no, but you should ask her out if you want to date her. You have to take risks of you are pursuing something.

 

[quizkiddonnie]

I think confidence in my case would be giving her the impression that I'm fine if it goes either way. I think if I try too hard, I'll push her away. If she isn't stupid, she already knows I'm into her. But I think she would appreciate me taking it slower rather than faster. It doesn't mean I won't keep trying, I'm just trying to show her that I'm my own person and she can be her own person. We're both busy with school and having time for ourselves (I can tell she's a major introvert like me). Based on my encounters with her, I would be surprised if another guy stole her away that easily. I took things really slow with her last semester and I think that's how I was able to move things forward from just texting to hanging out in person. She's a busy girl, and seems shy and introverted. I think if she made time for me and warmed up to me, that's a great sign.

 

[Xion]

I think confidence in my case would be giving her the impression that I'm fine if it goes either way. I think if I try too hard, I'll push her away. If she isn't stupid, she already knows I'm into her. But I think she would appreciate me taking it slower rather than faster. It doesn't mean I won't keep trying, I'm just trying to show her that I'm my own person and she can be her own person. We're both busy with school and having time for ourselves (I can tell she's a major introvert like me). Based on my encounters with her, I would be surprised if another guy stole her away that easily. I took things really slow with her last semester and I think that's how I was able to move things forward from just texting to hanging out in person. She's a busy girl, and seems shy and introverted. I think if she made time for me and warmed up to me, that's a great sign.

Of she really is shy and introverted, and also busy, I also think that other guy can't steal her away from you. And yes, sometimes taking it slow is the best thing to do.
The other day, my classmate touched my shoulder and immediately took her hand off my shoulder. She seemed very shy about it. I think she blushed a little.
Anyway, if she made time for YOU and warmed up for YOU, yes that is a great sign. Does she blush when she's around you?

 

[quizkiddonnie]

I can't tell that she blushes around me but I'm getting good signs from her. She seems shy, yet comfortable with me. She would also walk really close to me and get really close to me in general. When I compliment her, her face lights up and she laughs and looks away shyly

 

[Xion]

Those are good signs!! Does she help you even though you don't ask for her help?

 

[quizkiddonnie]

yes sort of. we were in the library and I needed to make a copy of something and she helped me, practically doing it for me. Same thing with something I needed to print out, she basically did it for me and showed me cause I didn't know how.

 

[williamreinsch]

I hope the best for you, let me know how it goes, hopefully she feels the same I would say just try as hard as you can to get on with college life as normal and if its meant to be she will show up!