Obstacle 1
Well-known member
Hi all,
Well the title says it all.. this Saturday I managed to get a date with a girl through online dating, this is going to be the first time we are going to meet. The only problem is, my anxiety is so intense I don't know if I will make it to Saturday without melting down into another cycle of panic attacks which I have not had for a few months at least.
Before I even considered this, I was in a state of relative calm just focusing on day to day things.. but I wanted a girl, I was motivated. The only problem is as soon as I touch on the subject it is a massive trigger. My last relationship did not end well in the sense that she never understood my anxiety issues and that really sent me in a downward spiral. I went through a long period of instability after it ended without being able to accept myself. So there is a very good chance that the real fear is of not being accepted by this new person as well.
But I don't really know what she is like.. What if she is nice? What if she will understand? I don't want to add this to the list of lost opportunities :kickingmyself:.
How do people deal with it? Do you tell them in some way that it is tough for you initially until you get to know them?
Well the title says it all.. this Saturday I managed to get a date with a girl through online dating, this is going to be the first time we are going to meet. The only problem is, my anxiety is so intense I don't know if I will make it to Saturday without melting down into another cycle of panic attacks which I have not had for a few months at least.
Before I even considered this, I was in a state of relative calm just focusing on day to day things.. but I wanted a girl, I was motivated. The only problem is as soon as I touch on the subject it is a massive trigger. My last relationship did not end well in the sense that she never understood my anxiety issues and that really sent me in a downward spiral. I went through a long period of instability after it ended without being able to accept myself. So there is a very good chance that the real fear is of not being accepted by this new person as well.
But I don't really know what she is like.. What if she is nice? What if she will understand? I don't want to add this to the list of lost opportunities :kickingmyself:.
How do people deal with it? Do you tell them in some way that it is tough for you initially until you get to know them?