get over it or accept it

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da_illest101

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Am I the only one who is tired of hearing those solutions as the only solutions? If it was that easy I think we just would. My problem is exactly the fact that I CAN'T GET OVER IT AND I DON'T ACCEPT IT MY SIYUATION. Simply saying those two things isn't going to help the person one bit since he/she already know that. Yes with time you can get over it and accept a situation, or it can become much more worse.

I'm not talking about a situation in particular, but it sum up a lot of my problems.
 
weberriver

weberriver

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Amen to that. "Just snap out of it already!" No, really???!! Why didn't I think of that?! Pure genius right there! Ugh. I know people are only trying to "help" with those kinds of remarks, but they're just so ignorant. They assume that just because they've felt sad or nervous around others before, that they also understand the crushing weight of depression and social anxiety. Yet you don't tell someone with a debilitating infectious disease to just get over it, so why is it okay to say that about mental problems? You can't get OVER it, you can only work THROUGH it (and hope to God there's really another side). Unlike waving the magic Get Over It Wand, that takes actual work -- heart-breaking, agonizing, checkered-with-failure work.
 
Srijita52

Srijita52

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I can relate also I've been told many times that I don't talk enough and I need to start talking. Yeah, now that's something I'm "not" aware of.
 
Richey

Richey

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Srijita52 said:
I can relate also I've been told many times that I don't talk enough and I need to start talking. Yeah, now that's something I'm "not" aware of.
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It's because the people who communicate that way are condescending out of just generally being bossy in their everyday life with everybody. "Know it alls", people who can twist words and sentences conceptually to fit their agenda of opinion, even if technically they are in the wrong, they'll fix the conversation into making it seem like they are right.

People who have empathy are way more down to earth and nice about communicating with someone else who is having a difficult time.

People who talk down to you get away with it every day and people don't stand up to them, so they keep doing it, their ego grows, their heads get bigger until they literally reach a point of pompous self importance that makes it hard to talk to those sorts of personalities.
 
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lilmutegirl

lilmutegirl

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Yeah, it's horrible when people say stuff like that. My mom and exes basically told me to "suck it up" when I told them I had problems. They acted as though I'd prefer the existence I was living over making my life easier by "sucking it up."
In some situations, you may have to power through a difficult time, but I wouldn't necessarily say that you "get over it" or even necessarily "accept it," there just may be nothing you can do to change the situation.
Right now I feel like I'm going through a time where I'm going to have to "bite the bullet" (I apparently like using quotation marks). I'm sure it'll be fine in the end, but being aware of that isn't making it any easier.
 
Section_31

Section_31

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Non-mutant people are idiots.

I tell them to lay off the idiot fuel when they make comments like that. Then i tell them to suck it up and quit worrying about breathing at the bottom of a swimming pool.

Seriously, sorry, im on a bit of a nerd rage here, but it just PO's me to no end when people can be so cold and ignorant to another human being.

Thats why i like to call myself a mutant compared to them. Makes me feel better :p. Id rather be how i am, and empathic of others and learn to incorporate my issues into myself, then be someone like that who has no problems, doesnt think about others, and just isn "human".

Mutant and proud!
 
Hoppy

Hoppy

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There is nothing wrong with saying "Get over it or accept it."

I've had it a few times, and they are absolutely right.

What I haven't heard ever, is HOW?
 
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Foxface

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da_illest101 said:
Am I the only one who is tired of hearing those solutions as the only solutions? If it was that easy I think we just would. My problem is exactly the fact that I CAN'T GET OVER IT AND I DON'T ACCEPT IT MY SIYUATION. Simply saying those two things isn't going to help the person one bit since he/she already know that. Yes with time you can get over it and accept a situation, or it can become much more worse.

I'm not talking about a situation in particular, but it sum up a lot of my problems.
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Same here. I don't know how to accept it, but I've been trying.
 
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