funerals

[THE-INTROVERT]

how do u deal with funerals having sa do u just avoid them and not go or do u go or even go with a drink or 2 in you too control nerves i imagine this is one of the worst dillemmas with sa sufferers

 

[Hannes]

I don't think that you should allow your social anxiety keep you from paying your last respects to someone you cared for. Realize that most of the other people who are attending will be dealing with their own grief so there should be little reason for having to create trivial conversation and no one will probably think it strange if you are quiet and withdrawn.

 

[Tiercel]

I just tell myself I'm doing it for (insert name(s) of relative(s) of person who recently died). If it's your uncle, tell yourself you're doing it for your aunt's sake, or your late uncle's siblings. I find it's more difficult to justify my anxieties when someone else is currently going through something much worse.

Though that doesn't mean I can be socially adept. At the last funeral I attended the widow thanked us for coming. "I'm glad to be here," I said with a smile. And immediately my thoughts went something like "Well, @#$%!"

 

[BlueDays]

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[BlackPuma]

Not too big on social ceremonies, but funerals are amongst the few things where I suck my anxieties up and just do it. Most people are too sad and distant to even pay attention to you anyway. :3

 

[Sial Axetder]

Though that doesn't mean I can be socially adept. At the last funeral I attended the widow thanked us for coming. "I'm glad to be here," I said with a smile. And immediately my thoughts went something like "Well, @#$%!"

Amazing how quick the words form and are spoken. Seemingly without thought. Thought appears, uselessly later.

Fortunate or unFortunate, not sure which is proper here, to have been present to two family funerals at a very young age. Remeber nothing. I really don't know. I do know I will not avoid.

 

[Jake123]

I've never been to a funeral. Whenever a relative dies they're just cremated and tossed into the canal. Don't have money for funerals, lol

 

[boro]

At the last funeral I attended the widow thanked us for coming. "I'm glad to be here," I said with a smile. And immediately my thoughts went something like "Well, @#$%!"

Haha and i thought my gaffe was bad.

Its a habit of mine to say 'how are you going?' when meeting someone but saying it to the grieving daughter of the deceased is beyond redundant.

But seriously the worst part about funerals is the protocols that everyone seems to be so aware of exept me. And the hugging and affection, which I would be fine with if I wasnt so self consiously wooden in my outward display of affection

 

[Ignace]

I just don't go.