You should be nice to everyone. You can not base your actions on what you think others think, because it's really none of your business what they are thinking.This is EXACTLY why you can't be nice to women. Because she thinks you are trying to hit on her, or lust for her, or "like" her. EVEN when it's genuine niceness.
The Only reason why it works, is because it makes her question herself, so she tries to prove herself. It's called the FREEZE OUT. or snubbing yea.. it makes them want to prove themselves to you, but doesn't necessarily mean they are more into you. It's just they can confuse themselves by trying to prove themselves to you and actually think they like you.Ye, i noticed that too, the more you seem ''not interested'' in a girl, the more she seems interested in you.
Im gonna tell a little story from a curch that has been said to do wonders for couples, lonley guys/girls that though they had a curse or witchcraft has been done to them to prevent mariage. Anyway..I attend to this church for some time now.
There are a lot of youngsters coming here, comparaed to other churches were mainly old people go. So it makes staying here less tiresome and boring, although u have to stay like 4 hours standing upright for the full ceremony (dont know if this is the word, but whatever).
So, as i said, there are many young girls who, judging by their looks, you would think they should have no problem in getting a boys attention, but still, even now i cant understand what is their problem. The priest reads papers with everyone wish and nearly 90 % of them are wanting a boyfrind.
Lol, i would ask evry one of them why they cant get a boyfriend cause most of them are hotties. Anyway, im divagating too much.
So, when i get bored, i use to stare at one, and after a few seconds, she notices and looks me back in the eyes. I switch my view and look elsewhere. Probbably she is thinking something like: this boy is digging me, i should do something. So she starts staring at me. I see that with the corner of my eye and look at her. When our sights meet, she starts smiling.
Thats when the fun begins
I look at her for like 2 secs, then switch views again, not smiling back. By this moments she is really confused, saying in her head like: wtf, i thought she liked me, could i be wrong ? she stared at me for a long enough time.
As we wonder around the curche's hall for the varios rituals that are perfomed there, she tries to get close to me to look in my eyes again and smile, just to let me know that she is interested. And the more i ignore her, the more she tries to grab my attention.
Witch brings me to my conclusion again: the more you seem ''not interested'' in a girl, the more she seems interested in you.
Unfortunately...playing this mind game brings momentary satisfaction that u can get a girls attention, but a long term dissapointment that u cant bring things a little further with her, due to social anxiety...
You summed up my feeling and problem exactly.I already never look at girls (seriously, I'm always super scared they will think I'm a creepo). Unfortunately, I'm not so lucky as to have girls checking me out.
yep same here. only I don't think that what I do will make her seem interested. or maybe I do just subconsciously.You summed up my feeling and problem exactly.
I always look when they can't see me looking, but feel if we make eye contact that she'll think of me as creepy and lusting or whatever, I feel you really can't win in this situation, because my pretending to ignore never gets me any where, like someone else mentioned: I feel like if one saw me looking at them they'd think I was weird, and if I try the "ignoring" like usual, thinking "she'll check me out if I do this", she assumes I'm not interested at all, and nothing will happen
And that for a good reason. It has happened to me many times that I have been literally yelled at for looking at someone in a way that particular person perceived as "creepy", apparently. Even if it was just for a moment. It must be my face, or my eyes, I don't know. The girls in one of my high-schools back than would systematically isolate me socially by telling stories about me, like I was "gay and into sodomy with male family members", and make it clear to me how low of a life I must be, because I apparently had "eyes like a pervert". Of course, it was finest bullying and none of it true.I'm always super scared they will think I'm a creepo
You know... things like this actually SHOULD be talked about because the majority of women ARE this way and most don't even know why.You guys are so daft. My god. You could over-analyse a tea pot.