FriendlyShadow
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I don't know about the rest of you on here, but for years I've been wondering what this tiresome phrase "fitting in" even means anymore. It seems as though I see a lot of people who'd like to fit in with people, but yet they are also worried of not standing out from the crowd. I mean, wouldn't that imply a contradiction? I don't know why society has led people into thinking that they must go out of their ways to try and be more special than their peers. Why is standing out from the crowd is that much important if a lot of people want to fit in? You know, I'll be honest now, I used to always think that I'd never "fit in" or that nobody notices me because I don't stand out from the "crowd". What makes someone standing out from the crowd so special if this society is so concerned about everyone trying to fit in? I don't understand...
I mean, is it actually worth trying to make yourself more superior than other people? Is it worth trying to make yourself look better than others because you are jealous of them? Why has competing against one another become a thing in this world? To be honest, I'd rather not make myself seem better than anyone one I'm friends with or the people around me in general. I know this happens a lot in movies/shows, where for example, a girl is jealous of another girl (either her best friend or girl that's snobby and popular) because they have all the things she doesn't have. Money, a boyfriend, good looks, popular, outgoing, rich, etc. It's all about a competition. What's actually scary, is that in real life, a lot of people imitate those kinds of similar behavior from movies/shows. Believe me, when I was younger, I couldn't believe how naive and ignorant I used to be. I used to be so obsessed with trying to be popular, trying to stand out from the crowd, even sometimes becoming jealous of other girls who had boyfriends/good looks. But you know what, I grew out of that phase now. I've finally learned to outgrow that immaturity I once had. I now talk to everyone just like any other human being. Things like popularity or good looks haven't become an issue to me anymore. Instead of breaking away from the crowd, I'd rather join it. If people say that everyone's unique, then why should others feel as though they need to prove that in order to get noticed more than others?
I mean, is it actually worth trying to make yourself more superior than other people? Is it worth trying to make yourself look better than others because you are jealous of them? Why has competing against one another become a thing in this world? To be honest, I'd rather not make myself seem better than anyone one I'm friends with or the people around me in general. I know this happens a lot in movies/shows, where for example, a girl is jealous of another girl (either her best friend or girl that's snobby and popular) because they have all the things she doesn't have. Money, a boyfriend, good looks, popular, outgoing, rich, etc. It's all about a competition. What's actually scary, is that in real life, a lot of people imitate those kinds of similar behavior from movies/shows. Believe me, when I was younger, I couldn't believe how naive and ignorant I used to be. I used to be so obsessed with trying to be popular, trying to stand out from the crowd, even sometimes becoming jealous of other girls who had boyfriends/good looks. But you know what, I grew out of that phase now. I've finally learned to outgrow that immaturity I once had. I now talk to everyone just like any other human being. Things like popularity or good looks haven't become an issue to me anymore. Instead of breaking away from the crowd, I'd rather join it. If people say that everyone's unique, then why should others feel as though they need to prove that in order to get noticed more than others?
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