Feeling unwanted

[recluse]

How come all the love interests i have had expect me to say i miss them when they don't say it in return? It seems that i care about people more than they care about me. No wonder people opt to be loners. I have noticed that i have been manipulated a lot by women who are selfish and only care about themselves.

Am i a fool for being the ''nice guy''?

 

[Dronee]

It might sound cliche, but maybe you just haven't met the right person yet. I've met women who are very manipulative. And some who are better than gold.

 

[Hellhound]

You aren't a fool for being nice, those girls are stupid for treating you badly.

 

[xxaimsxx]

Am i a fool for being the ''nice guy''?

Ooh i dont like it when all the nice guys get treated badly. And you shouldnt stop being nice and that goes for all guys. Dont assume all girls want the jerks.
Being rejected started my sa. Ive given up trying to make an effort with some people but that gets you nowhere so now im still trying. You should too mate.

 

[Emily_G]

You aren't a fool for being nice, those girls are stupid for treating you badly.

I def agree.

 

[BlueDays]

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[M1tCh]

I don't mean for this to be a personal attack, but the short answer is "Yes", to answer your question.
Following the "logic" and recommendations of the posters in this thread is likely to prolong your misery. No, you don't have to change who you are. No, you don't have to be an uncouth a-hole either; but, some 'tweaking' would probably be beneficial. In other words: there are things you can do that will help you to be more successful while retaining your core principals.
I wish you luck.

 

[da_illest101]

it's not that we are unwanted, it's just that we fail to see the expiration date on the back of neck

 

[recluse]

Hi, thanks for the replies.

Perhaps i am expecting too much? The girl in question at the start would put in her messages things like ''You are special and i'm glad i met you''...''I hope you think of me as much as i think of you''...Calling me ''handsome''...You know things that made me feel worthy for once in my life, i really thought ''Yes finally a girl is interested in me!''...Then it stopped and her messages are quite formal in tone. I also put an x after each message.

The girl in question complained a few months back that i never give her compliments but this is bullcrap! Although i did not in her face i did in a message say that she is pretty. She seems to be playing games with my head.

The last time i saw her in person was New years day 2009 when she had invited me to celebrate with her and we hugged twice at the train station, and they were lingering tight embraces. She then sent me a message saying she was going to miss me. And that was the last i saw of her.

 

[heartstrings]

M1tCh, gave some very wise advice and I'll add my 2cents.

Just be careful, people can also manipulate us without planning or scheming to because we give off an aura of vulnerability. But then there are just flat out evil people. We teach people how to treat us sometimes. I'm the nice girl so I can say this with experience. Continue to be kind. Women need that so much. :: But take care of your core.

 

[stephen]

The girl in question complained a few months back that i never give her compliments but this is bullcrap! Although i did not in her face i did in a message say that she is pretty.

I always have trouble with this one. Not that I don't think nice things about people it's just that I so undervalue my opinion that I don't feel that a compliment from me would mean anything.