Thank you for your advice and responses, it means alot! Definately think waaaay too much about others think...one day at a time. Today I'm feeling particularly down. Same thing happened again today, we all chatted together on skype with my partner...I just felt like I was invisible yet again. Eventually the pent up frustration of being ignored got to me and had to excuse myself from the conversation and go have a sob. I do spend way too much energy worrying about others definitely, bloody hell its hard as hell to deal with it. I have that overwhelming urge to at least be responded to when I talk to my friends, surely this is a basic need though, its why I feel like I am not overreacting.
I suppose I should clarify I'm a woman and most of my online acquaintances/friends are male, age range 20-30. I have 1 online female friend as well, but she tends to keep to herself and talks more with the guys. She is a nice girl, but I can sense she is not entirely comfortable around me. I definitely feel like the odd one out...as a woman, do guys get too nervous talking to express themselves online, even if they meet on a regular basis? I feel like none of my opinions ever matter...people just stay quiet when I am the one talking. I can even be better at something, but I feel because I am a woman...it doesn't count because all the guys will compliment each others skills at gaming or other things but not me, even when its evident I am better. (Not trying to toot my own horn, but I am just saying I feel like I am alienated because I am female sometimes.) I am just this empty voice. I just feel like a freak. I can't seem to make female friends at all either, I don't know why. I feel like I can't relate to other women, I am too tomboyish and suck at conversation. I feel like I am stuck in this weird place where I am too masculine/tomboyish for most other women to get along with me yet still too feminine for guys to feel entirely comfortable talking to me as a friend. It's a weird place to be at and I keep feeling like I must really change and twist everything about me to ever have a chance at meaningful friendships.
I am not saying I am not messed up and its not at least partially my fault...its just I can never seem to put skills to use to improve my social relationships. I don't want to turn into this sociopath, where I view relationships as merely tools to get what I want, but there is this part of me deep down that is so deeply aggravated by not being accepted for what I am that I have no choice but to be that way to progress and be happy in this world. It's even scary to think about, but I am feeling this absolute desperation, its just so god-damned hard. Anyway thanks to anyone who reads and listens.