kyle
Banned
Are any of you estranged from your family? I had always had a very voatile relationship with my immediate family (parents and sister). With my social anxiety, I made the mistake of drinking a lot, and was literally an alcoholic a few years ago. However, in spring 2009, I went to treatment, and now attend AA meetings.
The frustrating thing is no matter what I do or how hard I try, my family seems to resent me. I found out I had a 5 year old daughter in late 2007. That was my main reason for quitting alcohol. Now I read and heard that sometimes Grandchildren are the reason parents and their adult children finally bury the hatchet, but this simply has not been the case. It has actually caused more problems.
My parents seem to want to take my daughter to places without me, even though I only get to visit her once a week. And when I do see her, with them around, my Dad seems angry and annoyed, since my daughter wants to be with me, not him. Unfortunately, due to the circumstances, I had to settle custody/visitation through court a couple of years ago.
An argument stemmed from the fact that the mother had put my daughter on a site called "cutekid.com" with her (8 at the time), with makeup, and wearing what looked to be a dress that was geared toward young adults not kids. She even was posing seductively. It sickened me, especially since, I had asked for a week with my daughter, since I spent a year out of the city, and on the ad it stated "we are prepared to travel anywhere in North America, as long as expenses are paid, and she does not miss too much school."
I had shown my dad in an email the pics, and asked for advice, and showed him an article about the negative effects on children being models. In fact, the European Union is considering banning underage models. What he did hurt me greatly. He erased the article, and sent the photos to all my relatives, saying look at what my son sent me, pics of his daughter!"
It shocked me. I heard from my Aunt about the pics, and she even said this pics seemed a bit odd, and not age appropriate at all. Am I overreacting, or was this a mean spirited act? There are other instances that I can think of that I was betrayed by my family, but this is one of the incidents that I chose to share.
A month ago, I broke off ties with my immediate family. I wish it did not have to end like this, but they were so toxic to deal with that I felt I had no choice. Has anyone endured anything like this? What should I do to mend the pain in my heart that I feel?
The frustrating thing is no matter what I do or how hard I try, my family seems to resent me. I found out I had a 5 year old daughter in late 2007. That was my main reason for quitting alcohol. Now I read and heard that sometimes Grandchildren are the reason parents and their adult children finally bury the hatchet, but this simply has not been the case. It has actually caused more problems.
My parents seem to want to take my daughter to places without me, even though I only get to visit her once a week. And when I do see her, with them around, my Dad seems angry and annoyed, since my daughter wants to be with me, not him. Unfortunately, due to the circumstances, I had to settle custody/visitation through court a couple of years ago.
An argument stemmed from the fact that the mother had put my daughter on a site called "cutekid.com" with her (8 at the time), with makeup, and wearing what looked to be a dress that was geared toward young adults not kids. She even was posing seductively. It sickened me, especially since, I had asked for a week with my daughter, since I spent a year out of the city, and on the ad it stated "we are prepared to travel anywhere in North America, as long as expenses are paid, and she does not miss too much school."
I had shown my dad in an email the pics, and asked for advice, and showed him an article about the negative effects on children being models. In fact, the European Union is considering banning underage models. What he did hurt me greatly. He erased the article, and sent the photos to all my relatives, saying look at what my son sent me, pics of his daughter!"
It shocked me. I heard from my Aunt about the pics, and she even said this pics seemed a bit odd, and not age appropriate at all. Am I overreacting, or was this a mean spirited act? There are other instances that I can think of that I was betrayed by my family, but this is one of the incidents that I chose to share.
A month ago, I broke off ties with my immediate family. I wish it did not have to end like this, but they were so toxic to deal with that I felt I had no choice. Has anyone endured anything like this? What should I do to mend the pain in my heart that I feel?
