Experience at Club - Fail With 2 Girls In A Row

[agoraphobickatie]

...just so you know, pal, i'm not even giving you the minute and a half of my life to read whatever you just replied. THAT is how much i care at this point.. first, i really just wanted to tell you what you needed to hear, so maybe you could get it through your thick skull.. then, you acted like you got it and you were thankful for the advice.. but now, i see that you don't even want our help or advice or judgment, yes our judgment, because that's what you sign up for when you join a forum and explain yourself and your situation and ASK for others' opinions and advice.. get over yourself, man, and quit ACTING like you have all kinds of self confidence issues, because you're certainly not showing that side genuinely.. please don't bother even replying to this post, it'd be a waste of yours and, certainly my, time.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

2 Girls 1 Club.

 

[Phobologist]

2 Girls 1 Club.

Loooool I wonder how bad that vid would be?

 

[Phobologist]

...just so you know, pal, i'm not even giving you the minute and a half of my life to read whatever you just replied. THAT is how much i care at this point.. first, i really just wanted to tell you what you needed to hear, so maybe you could get it through your thick skull.. then, you acted like you got it and you were thankful for the advice.. but now, i see that you don't even want our help or advice or judgment, yes our judgment, because that's what you sign up for when you join a forum and explain yourself and your situation and ASK for others' opinions and advice.. get over yourself, man, and quit ACTING like you have all kinds of self confidence issues, because you're certainly not showing that side genuinely.. please don't bother even replying to this post, it'd be a waste of yours and, certainly my, time.

Haha Katie what on earth are you talking about? Silly assumptions.

 

[Satine]

I don't particularly want to get tangled up in this, but I will say that you are coming across as not very nice, Phobiologist. At the start of this thread, I mostly thought you were a good bloke with a few confidence issues, but as time goes on and you reply more, you're coming across as less and less likeable. Maybe the very girls you're trying to attract have noticed this, too.

 

[Phobologist]

I don't particularly want to get tangled up in this, but I will say that you are coming across as not very nice, Phobiologist. At the start of this thread, I mostly thought you were a good bloke with a few confidence issues, but as time goes on and you reply more, you're coming across as less and less likeable. Maybe the very girls you're trying to attract have noticed this, too.

Yea, that's it, maybe I'm just an asshole and we all know how girls despise assholes. And you wonder why Jocks get pussy?

 

[Harleyq]

Yea, that's it, maybe I'm just an asshole and we all know how girls despise assholes. And you wonder why Jocks get pussy?

I don't know if it's so much that you can come across as an asshole, but you come across as overly angry and aggressive on SPW, which, if you're giving off these vibes in real life, is intimidating and it could be making some girls avoid you. They might be ok with someone who has no tact and likes himself too much but they're not going to want to go home with a guy who gives off an angry and therefore possibly dangerous vibe.

I know whenever I come across a post from you, I get hesitant to reply most of the time because I don't know how you'll take it, even if I'm not being defensive towards you and quite frankly, it's not worth getting into an e-fight over so I just pass it up entirely. Girls you encounter at these clubs might feel similarly.

But you've recently been saying that you've loosened up and can act like yourself at your best. So just stay on that path and try not to focus so much about a little negativity here and there, especially over the internet from some strangers behind a screen.

 

[Phobologist]

I don't know if it's so much that you can come across as an asshole, but you come across as overly angry and aggressive on SPW, which, if you're giving off these vibes in real life, is intimidating and it could be making some girls avoid you. They might be ok with someone who has no tact and likes himself too much but they're not going to want to go home with a guy who gives off an angry and therefore possibly dangerous vibe.

A major component of my SA is a near total inability to suffer criticism. I also, as a result of this, tend to come off as a know-it-all. This is why I seem overly-agressive and angry. However, you have to look at what caused it - criticism, which I can't handle. Recently this has gotten much better, thankfully, and largely due to my experiences here. I dont think women are particularly experiencing this from me since I (a) never argue with women, (b) avoid hostility at all costs, and (c) have succeeded in taking plenty of girls on dates and many of them home. The problem is what happens next.

I know whenever I come across a post from you, I get hesitant to reply most of the time because I don't know how you'll take it, even if I'm not being defensive towards you and quite frankly, it's not worth getting into an e-fight over so I just pass it up entirely. Girls you encounter at these clubs might feel similarly.

Sorry that Ive been so overly-sensitive and vindictive on this site. However, as I mentioned, this is part of my illness, and while vengefullness and spite are certainly elements of my personality, this particular issue is primarily a result of my social phobia. Again, I doubt girls in clubs are reacting to any such behaviors. They don't criticize me, and I don't confront them even if they do. Remember, in the past I was always "acting".

But you've recently been saying that you've loosened up and can act like yourself at your best. So just stay on that path and try not to focus so much about a little negativity here and there, especially over the internet from some strangers behind a screen.

I will try, but you have to understand I have atelophobia - fear of being defective. Im also highly obsessive, which means getting initial thoughts out of my head is difficult when I am upset. I cannot stand criticism from people behind computers half-way around the world, for the same reason I have no freinds, no girlfriend, and no life. Basicaly, if I were entirely over this problem, I would have no reason to be here anymore. I hope that sheds some light on it.

 

[Jesushasomeoneforme]

Hey folks. Most attractive girls can get a lot of guys many who they are interested in. They do not understand what it's like to be rejected 99 times out 100 or 99 out of 99. Just do thre best you can. It's herl oss not your man. You do not need a woman to get yourself to feel good about yourself.