everyone I have met I have pushed away...

[no1]

I dont know if I do all this on purpose. so I end up alone.

I don't mean to just ramble, if you see me as rambling since most of my posts may seem like spam, I guess.

 

[Gone]

I do this too, including people i want to be with, sometimes on purpose but most of the time i don't even realise.
Probably common for alot of people here.

 

[Naniwazu]

Me too...friends and family. I practically live in our cellar, that's my safe spot.

 

[recluse]

Everyone up to now i have pushed away by being avoidant; Not answering messages and things...An it hurts

There's one girl who i see that i am not willing to push away though. I just hope she doesn't push me away.

 

[lyricalliaisons]

I've pushed away every friend I ever had... which was very few to begin with. I've pushed away family, & basically everyone else. I'm sure that if I ever had the opportunity to be in a relationship, I'd push that away, too... & that's the last thing I want to do .

 

[no1]

I think most people think I have no "common sense" or I'm just dense/stupid, and childish..

 

[dan_e]

Same here. It probably seems like I'm doing it on purpose, but I'm not. Most times I don't even realize I'm doing it until much later. I wonder why people don't invite me out anymore, thinking that they don't like me anymore, when maybe I accidentally pushed them away. I feel like I have no grasp of this, like something is forcing me apart from others.....and people can't see or understand this problem.

 

[SteveW]

I guess I must be doing it somehow, because nobody thinks of me enough to start a conversation, see how I am etc. and even when I text, or post on their Facebooke to ask how they are, I get nothing back - and I have just under 60 friends there because I don't add just anybody. Not replying when I have asked how they are just insults me, more than people not getting in touch with me first.

As for pushing people away, I knew a girl on MSN for a few years and we got talking again after a few months of inactivity. It turned out we were both suffering from anxiety/depression and she lived about 5 minutes drive up the road from me. I was helpful, understanding and generally nice as I usually am with people.

However one day I text her and she said she was busy and she'd chat later. I caught her on MSN and she found 'Eastenders' more important than chatting - unusual as we'd usually chat whilst watching films etc - so I asked what the problem was and was basically told to never talk to her again and delete her MSN/number etc. - I tried to find out why, but I wasn't given any reason. I guess that's conciously pushing someone away, hey...

Before my problems I met up with a couple of girls (separately) and neither of them would talk despite me trying to make conversation. I really don't know what it is with me - People just will not talk to me even though I make the effort. Maybe I'm just ugly or something.

 

[Havocan]

I too push people away. Not because I don't like them or want to get rid of them, but because I fear they'll start see me as boring, incompetent, odd, strange and just otherwordly. Or I don't initiate contact or conversations with anyone, it's seen as a waste of time because rejection will come sooner or later.

It's an utter vicious circle to think like that, the fact is supposedly that 99% of everyone don't see you as weird or boring if you behave appropriately and have some social antennas. There is work to be done for making true friends who won't go away, it's just a matter of jumping over the first obstacle. Difficult to perform, but nevertheless necessary.