The people here arent here solely for their own personal gain... They are here for friendship and acceptance... And in turn they all seem to give friendship and acceptance.
Totally agree.
This is a SP forum and this particular area is OCD. The purpose of the forum is to converse, to encourage, to try out ideas in a fairly safe venue with people who, mostly, are here because we all have this in common: OCD and/or SP. I hope and pray that when I post that it
will help someone out there-I
want it to be for their personal gain!!! If I can help just one person live their lives more fully by writing about my strategies/coping mechanisms, I will do it.
You cannot freely talk about your mental illness in the "real" world. It might cause negative reactions from friends, your boss, your neighbours. You might lose your job. There is still tons of stigma around OCD. It is not safe to bring this stuff up. Yet, here, in what someone said was a "fantasy world" I find it really amazing when I read other's posts and see ME in there. I am not the only one who can get lost in a maze of OCD what-ifs. I laugh when others make a joke that really only a person with OCD can understand. I immediately feel connected to people on this forum because we are experiencing similar things. My husband loves me very much and I have very stable relationships in the real world but they don't really understand OCD because they have not experienced it. So, which world is true and which is fantasy? I can explore different parts of who I am in each world-they are both real.
It is OK to feel emotionally attached to others, even acquaintances. All people want to belong, we all want to be seen, we all want the world to be better because we are here and to be missed when we go. I feel happy when I stop in a store and see the same nice check out person. Is that abnormal? No. Is it an attachment? I think so. I recognize the person, I remember that they smiled at me last time and I am anticipating one again. Now, if I don't get a smile-what happens? In the past I might have gone on a spiral but now I just say to myself, maybe she is having a bad day-I don't know what has happened in her life. You can't fortune tell nor mind read.
I read a great book " Feeling Good-The New Mood Therapy" (David Burns) where he talks about the "10 Twisted Ways of Thinking". I worked through it and now I try to not think in the ways he points out.
Anyway, long post. I think it is totally OK to form attachments online-just make sure you keep yourself safe in case there is a non-genuine person out there.