*****EMERGENCY*****dancing at parties

[BC-chick]

i don't know how to freestyle dance to any music.
i have to go to this party which everyone will be dancing and im not sure if i should. maybe i will embarrass myself. i can't learn how to dance by the end of today can i? im so nervous i cant even focus on my work this morning. what should i do? should i not go? its a holiday party and all my man's family will be there.. god i can't stand them.. we're not even married .we been dating for 3 years though...what should i do other then get drunk or not go at all?

 

[AsTimeBurns]

No idea, I can't dance either. But when in doubt, I'd say take the dancing advice of Turk:

Scrubs - Is Turk Black? - YouTube

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Dancing, eh?
Doesn't your 'man' know you 'can't dance' or aren't confident in your ability to?
Just tell him.
It really shouldn't be a big deal.
ALOT of people can't dance.
The point is to have fun, afterall.
Dance however you want to dance or don't dance at all.

(I don't dance haha)

 

[Iluv]

I know it's awkward dancing for me too. I usually just go with the music, stay away from the creepy grinding guys. Do not get drunk unless you want to embarrass yourself dancing. It's never helpful. Just tell the guy, I'm sure he can help you too.

 

[N0D]

drinking only helps if you actually know how to dance somewhat and just need the guts to do it. i've always wanted to learn to dance really cool and stuff but i've tried and i find it extremely hard...

 

[Sial Axetder]

Uhg, dancing, do not understand.

Like others suggested here. Tell your man your troubles. He should understand.

You don't gotta do what you don't wanna do.

 

[Sial Axetder]

I know it's awkward dancing for me too. I usually just go with the music, stay away from the creepy grinding guys. Do not get drunk unless you want to embarrass yourself dancing. It's never helpful. Just tell the guy, I'm sure he can help you too.

Grinding guys, I think I know what you mean. They just jump right in and .... ufff whatever....

 

[bsammy]

lol ive tried dancing a few times, and alcohol did not help...lol..seriously, i dont even bother to try anymore..any understanding partner should be cool with it..

 

[coyote]

most people don't know how to dance

that does not stop them from demonstrating that fact whenever they have the chance

the point is not to dance well, but just to get out there and have fun

there aren't judges sitting on the sidelines holding up score cards or anything

usually

 

[Aletheia]

what should i do other then get drunk

Actually, a couple of drinks may not be a bad idea.

The advice my dance instructor gave to one of my fellow students was to have a stiff whisky before class.

 

[Sial Axetder]

most people don't know how to dance

that does not stop them from demonstrating that fact whenever they have the chance

the point is not to dance well, but just to get out there and have fun

there aren't judges sitting on the sidelines holding up score cards or anything

usually

What if it ain't no fun?
What if music doesn't move one physically?
What if one is tied tight with anxiety (this may be a huge contributing factor)?

 

[coyote]

What if it ain't no fun?
What if music doesn't move one physically?
What if one is tied tight with anxiety (this may be a huge contributing factor)?

do the same thing i do when someone asks me to play basketball

shake my head sadly, laugh wanly, and decline graciously

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I just stand there. I'm too cool to dance.
haha

I can do the ponponpon, though.

 

[Sial Axetder]

I just stand there. I'm too cool to dance.
haha

I can do the ponponpon, though.

That's what I did when she dragged me out to the floor. Baahh!
eeeuuugg, talk about out of comfort zone.
Luckily sinking back into the crowd was perfectly executed.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

I don't know how to dance either. It used to bug me a lot more when I was younger than it does now. Maybe 'cause now I don't get invited to any parties and don't try to go to clubs anymore.

I totally get what you mean when you say if you can learn how to dance right now. I was the same way the night before a party. Wanting to learn. All these girls at these things would have years of practice from going to parties as little girls and watching people dance, and when I would get up there, it just wouldn't happen. I was so stiff (and full of anxiety of course).

People teach themselves how to crochet and do makeup from youtube videos so it may be possible to learn to dance watching videos as well. I am going to add dancing to my list of things I wanna learn how to do; I had forgotten about that one! It just looks like so much fun, and I always feel like I am missing out just sitting there staring and drinking.