Does working hard make people dislike you...?

[WelshOne]

Ok, so I've been to this mental health group twice now. We all meet in a private area of woodland, with two mental health support workers who lead the group. We do all sorts of different jobs, and today one of the support workers was teaching us how to dry stone wall (building walls with natural stones and no cement).

But anyway to get to the point of the thread... I consider myself a hard worker. I would rather get down to work than stand around making idle conversation. But I think by doing this I detatch myself from the others a bit! Today I got the comment, "Slow down Tom, you're making the rest of us look bad!" It was a friendly, joking comment, but I feel people may actually feel a bit like that, in truth. I worry that they might not want me as part of their group (we divide into several groups doing different jobs) because maybe I make people feel bad. That probably comes across really big-headed, but I don't mean it like that... it's just that because of my SA I'd rather keep myself busy and work more or less non-stop! (Lunch break? Eek - conversation!)

So yeah, I'm really temped to hold back next time, just so that I fit in better. But that just aint me, I like to give things my all...


Anyone else find themselves having to "hold back" at all, to fit in with groups, or to be accepted?

 

[recluse]

I'm the same, i just want to get on with work rather than stand around. I actually find that time goes really slow unless i'm doing something. When i was working some guy told me ''You're always working!''....And i thought to myself ''well yeah we are here to work!''

It's the same regarding the gun club i go to. I despise the start when people just hang around talking, i just want to get going!

 

[slimjim119]

I don't think it makes people dislike me. I get along with most people. But I feel guilty and uncomfortable goofing off and not doing what I'm suppose to be doing. I've always been a hard worker. Idle conversation doesn't bother me too much. Sometimes I'd rather leave for lunch and be more relaxed then sit with a large group of people though. I wouldn't hold back to be accepted by people. Just be who you are.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

So yeah, I'm really temped to hold back next time, just so that I fit in better. But that just aint me, I like to give things my all...

Anyone else find themselves having to "hold back" at all, to fit in with groups, or to be accepted?

I would recommend against it. Strongly. If others feel you are making them look bad, that's their problem - and most certainly not yours. Don't feel detached because you're doing what you're supposed to be doing.

 

[Deathnote]

If you like working hard; continue doing so. Don't let others hold you back on anything.

Without going into too much detail about myself; I have worked my ass off this year and it has really paid off in terms of career and respect of my piers.

and I also got the "Slow down Tom, you're making the rest of us look bad!" thing too. That's just worth laughing about.

 

[JCS008]

It's sad. I use to get that at an old job also. I normally kept my head down and worked hard and produced efficient results. Part of the reason was that I did want to do a good job, but I also did this so I could stay awake. I mean if you're in a cubicle, in front of a computer and working under those office lights, you're going to get tired faster. The only way I was able to stay awake was by doing work.

But either way, I'd get a lot of jabs from coworkers on how I like to work harder than everyone else and I actually enjoy the assignments given to me. It was all in a playful way, but part of me felt that they were saying: Hey slow down, you're making the rest of us look bad.

So I say this to you WelshOne, just keep doing what you're doing. You work hard, that's who you are. I don't think you should slow down just because people can't keep up. You're not doing anything bad, so it shouldn't be of your concern.

 

[Skald]

it's hard because most burry themselves in work to hurry up the time so they can go home relax and socialise. but With SA it's an opportunity to practice on our skills in the work place as it is something most of us have to do. It's finding the balance I guess.