LittleMissMuffet
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I've spoken to just two people here personally who have said that, like me, they grew-up with family members (often older siblings) who are socially domineering/ social butterflies.
Like me, at least one of these people also said that they tend to be 'adopted' by the popular types.
...coincidence? -I think not.
There is a reason why my sister and I developed to become polar opposites socially to one another. There is something happening on a deeper level that makes us the same even while we are complete opposites. ....high standards? -sensitivity to people and first impressions? -a strong capacity to feel attachment to people (the all-or-nothing attitude towards relationships)? -vanity/insecurity when it comes to people?
I also think, that on a deeper level, socially anxious types have a strong pull towards forming attachments with others and yet are also introverted. This makes us want to be very sociable and yet at the same time we are easily effected and unsettled by how others are (towards us).
...not unlike a girl who is monogamous and yet has a high sex drive: she strongly wants intimacy and a relationship, but she is equally compelled towards avoiding intimate relationships because she wants monogamy.
Like me, at least one of these people also said that they tend to be 'adopted' by the popular types.
...coincidence? -I think not.
There is a reason why my sister and I developed to become polar opposites socially to one another. There is something happening on a deeper level that makes us the same even while we are complete opposites. ....high standards? -sensitivity to people and first impressions? -a strong capacity to feel attachment to people (the all-or-nothing attitude towards relationships)? -vanity/insecurity when it comes to people?
I also think, that on a deeper level, socially anxious types have a strong pull towards forming attachments with others and yet are also introverted. This makes us want to be very sociable and yet at the same time we are easily effected and unsettled by how others are (towards us).
...not unlike a girl who is monogamous and yet has a high sex drive: she strongly wants intimacy and a relationship, but she is equally compelled towards avoiding intimate relationships because she wants monogamy.