Do you feel that most people are let-downs?

[Blue Teardrops]

I feel this all the time, and especially felt it just recently when this guy from class I had been hanging out with just all of a sudden acted like he wanted nothing to do with me any more. We hung out for a long while, and I kind of saw him as the brother I never had. No romantic feelings between us or anything. I just regretted letting my guard down.

What about you guys?

btw, I had deleted his number from my phone since I never heard from him in a long time, and a few weeks ago he sent me phone text message randomly asking me a question about a study book, but not how are you doing or what's up or anything. just that question. and that was it. I didn't write him back tho. It felt too weird.

 

[BlackKids]

Most people yeah. Some are worth your time and effort though. Sorry that you got hurt

 

[JCS008]

Some people are just like that. Well, check that. Most people are like that. I don't know you Blue Teardrops or your friend, so I guess everything I'm writing is more of supposing or speculating.

- Some people just get bored of situations or unfortunately people. A lot of the thrill of talking to someone is when you're first getting to know them. Since most situations are fresh and the conversations are new. Maybe he felt the excitement was gone and the friendship had leveled out.

- People take friends for granted everyday. Sometimes they treat those closest to them the worst. It's unfortunate, I've been a victim of it myself, but if you're too loyal and too interested in one of your friends, they may overlook you at times since they know they have your approval. Humans are constantly seeking approval and a lot of times once they have the approval of someone, they'll move on to network out.

- Maybe he met someone else or just found a new interest in something else. Again, going back to humans getting bored easily, and he'll just overlook everything else that was in his life. And whatever this new interest is, chances are it is something worth dedicating most of his time to.

Once again, I'm not saying this is the case with you and your friend. This is merely a speculation and ramblings. I really hope you get the closure you deserve because that's the least you can do with a friend, is give them the truth.

 

[meatcake]

guys are weird (i can say that because i am one). maybe he was starting to develop feelings for you, and couldn't handle being so close without it being something more?

 

[2Crowded]

Guys have trouble being just friends unless they are gay or in a perfectly happy relationship with a girl already...& if that is the case...its very possible she is taking up all of his time & attention & or she dont appreciate his closeness to the other girl so he stays clear to keep peace with his woman.

 

[userremoved]

Guys have trouble being just friends unless they are gay or in a perfectly happy relationship with a girl already...& if that is the case...its very possible she is taking up all of his time & attention & or she dont appreciate his closeness to the other girl so he stays clear to keep peace with his woman.

I understand that completely. I don't get it though, do women not have the same trouble when it comes to being friends with a guy? Is there no tension there whatsoever?

 

[LeeAnne]

I do. I think people are complex, we all have our own issues, our own strong opinions we have to defend, and we are often unable to see it just for what it is. Common everywhere.

 

[Nina09]

Blue, it's happened to me often. You seem to hit it off with someone, they call you daily, you talk nonstop, then suddenly they just up and quit. No rhyme, reason or explanation.

Then you spend countless hours wondering what you said or did wrong to turn that person away.

I've finally realized that it's very common for this to happen. People change with the wind. Not to mention, having platonic friendships with guys is very unpredictable.

The way to keep from hurting so much is to try and get rid of any expectations you may have about how the relationship will go with that person.

Even though you both had no intentions of taking it to a romantic level, you may have unintentionally begun to have expectations that this person was becoming a good friend and close confidante, so when he suddenly stopped, you felt betrayed.

The next time you hit it off with someone, try your best to enjoy it for what it is at the time, but don't expect it to last long. It may last and be a life long relationship or it may end in 2 weeks. Either way you'll be fine because you haven't built up hopes or expectations on how things will go.

I hope that will help you. It's helped me to come to this realization and saved myself a lot of pain.

 

[NothingElseMatters]

I feel this all the time, and especially felt it within the last year when this guy I had been getting to know just all of a sudden acted like he wanted nothing to do with me any more.

most of my friendships(guys and girls) ended the same way.Although i still feel some hate for them i know it was my fault

 

[jamez]

I understand that completely. I don't get it though, do women not have the same trouble when it comes to being friends with a guy? Is there no tension there whatsoever?

What do girls usually do when they're with their friends? They sit around and talk. Sometimes about close and personal things. Men usually don't do this and are more action orientated with their friends. It can happen either way though, and when one person wants something a little more, things can get a little complicated.

 

[2Crowded]

"A guy cant be friends with a woman he finds attractive.. because sex always gets in the way" .... "& even if she is only remotely attractive to him.....he still will want to have sex with her"... "so in the end guys cant really be friends with women unless they find them unattractive...& even then the guy probly still would do her"

to quote Billy Crystal roughly

 

[Blue Teardrops]

"A guy cant be friends with a woman he finds attractive.. because sex always gets in the way" .... "& even if she is only remotely attractive to him.....he still will want to have sex with her"... "so in the end guys cant really be friends with women unless they find them unattractive...& even then the guy probly still would do her"

to quote Billy Crystal roughly

Yet another reason I hate society....women are not generally viewed as human beings who have feelings but rather as sex objects. It's sickening.



Edit: My comment wasn't directed against you, 2Crowded......I was just venting my frustrations against society at large.

 

[2Crowded]

Yet another reason I hate society....women are not generally viewed as human beings who have feelings but rather as sex objects. It's sickening.

Yes... I agree, & im on your side Blue