Do you feel..stupid when posting?

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jaixo

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I feel that when I join in threads and reply with my thoughts that if comes off as completely stupid or pointless. I feel like the new kid (I am actually rather new to the site) trying to join in with everyone else (which I've never actually done >.>). But I read everyone else's replies and they sound completely normal then I read mine and I regret posting it and consider deleting it. I keep thinking that no one will want to read it or that if they do, they think something bad. Plus the fact that I might be one of the younger ones on here (15), I'll be viewed as ignorant or naive with worthless thoughts.

I'm even scared to post this but my curiosity and fear have never gotten along and I figure that if I can ask anyone anything, it'd be here..
 
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jaixo

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Hm. I've never been good at explaining things at all, either. I mean, I feel like I'm making sense but then no one understands and I just feel stupid. :/
 
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your replys arnt stupid or pointless ... your just telling other spw members how you feel , and that me old mate is what this site is for ...... anyways if you want to read stupid posts lol you wanna look at some of mine :rolleyes: im the king of stupid posts around here :D.....:cool: post edit ... i see your a girl i called you mate :eek: hmmmmmm anyways post away lolz dont worry about how you come across girl..
 
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goldenholds

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Me too. I'm 37 and still feel naive. And I have always had trouble expressing myself. So here I am trying to practice and open up, anonymously (one hopes), with the thought that it will help me in my real life. And it does help. And you do not sound stupid, you sound very bright and thoughtful. If only I was able to start this when I was 15, where would I be now? So I say to you, hold nothing back and share whatever it is you wish, we're all in this together.
 
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Feathers

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Yeah, lol. Me too. :) I'm new here too, so maybe that's why. I usually feel okay posting on forums where I know people better.. Maybe also because some topics here are of more 'sensitive' and personal nature.. I also have some really funny phobias (of babies and really gorgeous guys etc!) Also, how much to say, and such?

jaixo - actually thought you were older, love your nickname & avatar & it's great to see perspective from people of various ages!!

I think many people with shyness or anxiety may have a negative self-talk in the head, and other people may perceive all that quite differently.. Soo, I'm happy that despite feeling silly everyone still posts - I've already learnt a lot from this site!! So big thank you for being here and posting! :)
 
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jaixo

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mrb: *Phew* Thank you, that makes me feel loads better. And I doubt yours are stupid if mine aren't. :) You're not supposed to call girls "mate"? Since when? :confused: Haha.

goldenholds: So, I guess the feeling of naivety never fades..? Well, I guess you can't learn everything, right? But yeah, I have similar hopes. I'm glad I realized what SA was when I did but sometimes I get the feeling it might be too late already to fix it? I like to think that it's never too late for anything but I seem to be getting worse and getting professional help isn't an option, at the moment. But that's just me worrying. Thank you for your encouragement, it's very much appreciated. :D
 
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jaixo

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Feathers: I welcome you, as well, then. :) I think the fact that this site is specifically for those with Social Anxiety makes it a little easier. It's still nerve-racking (right after I posted this thread, I started shaking and my heart felt I'd just run the mile, haha) But just the responses I've gotten on this have relaxed me quite a bit though, so I appreciate all the support. And by the by, I also have an awful phobia of spiders and bugs. My brothers make a joke out of it and leave me on my own when they're around so I don't dare tell them about my SA. ::(:

Yeah, people tend to think I'm 16-18. I don't know where that comes from but it happens, lol. But thank you. I'm not actually sure where the nickname came :confused: haha.

I tend to second-guess myself and I worry about how what I'm saying gets through to other people. But knowing that you've learned a lot from this site gives me a little motivation to keep posting, so I thank you.

Winter Dreams: I can relate to that. I'm so obnoxiously indecisive and once I post something I re-read it and think of different, better ways to have said something. And it's also why it takes me so long to reply to anything. I re-read things until I just hope for the best and post; it's much too time-consuming for my lack of patience. But I think that after just leaving it alone for a while, it doesn't actually sound so bad and you can relax a bit, especially because everyone here is sure to understand, right? :)
 
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jaixo

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MidnightStar: I have that same problem; my thoughts are so inconsistent. It's hard to stay on topic, especially when I'm talking out loud. At least online, you can look over your reply and edit them as you please to make it easier to follow. Expressing myself isn't my specialty at all. Never has been. I can rarely even understand my own feelings so there's no way I can hope for others to understand. But oh, well, I guess. It feels good to know we're not alone, though, right? :D
 
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jaixo

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Luke1993: I think you're maybe just doubting yourself? Or maybe you just hold yourself to high standards? I do that, too..I think everyone does, really..but it says you've made over 1,000 posts? :eek: I admire the fact that you have the courage to post your thoughts, despite your belief of not coming off as "clever". :)
 
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jarnapal

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jaixo said:
:D I don't know how others do it. :confused: I've always had a problem with it. And my mood swings don't help at all. ::(:
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Do you feel foggy or have brain fog ? Lethargy ? Buy unrefined Apple cider vinegar and sip it all day long. Also, check out your table salt if it has iodine added.

Stop eating foods with added Monosodium Glutamate (E621).
 
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jaixo

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jarnapal said:
Do you feel foggy or have brain fog ? Lethargy ? Buy unrefined Apple cider vinegar and sip it all day long. Also, check out your table salt if it has iodine added.

Stop eating foods with added Monosodium Glutamate (E621).
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Lethargy..possibly. I'll have to do some research. Thank you for the input and suggestions. :)
 
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jaixo

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khasahara said:
i struggle with this, even on a social anxiety forum! and i'm 33.

i feel mostly redundant and silly. i've deleted a large hunk of everything i've ever posted.
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I feel the same way. I haven't deleted much, though. I've considered it. And still do. Especially when I actually go back and read them; I feel so inadequate. But I think that keeping your thoughts/feelings/opinions out in the open knowing that others can see it, though terrifying, might actually help us because after a while, we see that nothing bad happened when we shared something of ourselves. I think that everyone, with or without SA, relates to each other. I mean, being that we're human, the struggles we're facing are shared by everyone, right? Maybe not with social interaction and such, specifically, but everyone has their worries and fears and struggle with something at some time...a bit off topic, perhaps? Anway..I think that the way to start overcoming something as great as SA has to start small. Just by realizing that no matter what you say that someone, somewhere, will understand it along with not giving into the temptation of clicking the delete button might actually gain us some confidence. And I think that letting yourself go a little here would be the safest start seeing as that the ones likely to admit to relating to you are here with encouragement. :)

Oof..sorry for rambling..::eek::
 
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