Do you ever feel you've disappointed your parents?

[Section_31]

not MY father, no.

my MIL and FIL on the other hand, oh yes.

With them its always SOMTHING, nothing is ever good enough. Im not good enough for their daughter, theyre pissed i never asked their permission to propose, i dont make enough money, i made financial mistakes in the past, im not religious enough, ect ect ect. Its why i hate talking to them and avoid it at all costs and they honestly dont understand why, yet they love to berate me at the dinner table. She always defends me and i love her for it.....but it shouldnt be this way. The only reason i dont give either of them two middle fingers and tell them where to go and how to get there is because of her, i dont want to put her in the middle. Id like to be the bigger man at take the high road, i can at least respect myself for that.

Thank god they live 7 hours away and i only see them once maybe twice a year!!. If they move 3 hours south WERE moving 3 hours south.

 

[MNM322]

Yep, pretty sure my folks didnt want some lame 30 year old loser but none the less, here i am.... we dont talk much, so idk... def know my youngest bro is the fav

 

[wanderingstar]

I don't much feel like a disappointment -- they certainly aren't proud of me and I am a burden to them, but really what were they expecting? Given the kind of person I am, the life I lead, while not what I want it to be, could certainly be worse.

I mean, I came out a problem child. If I were them I would've handed me back.

 

[alwayssunnyinphiladelphia]

Yes I think I make my dad unhappy my dad is sick and had a stroke if he wasn't sick I really wouldn't care if he was proud or not but I feel bad for him and my aunt says the only thing that will make him happy is if I get a job and have a life but it doesn't seem like that is gonna work out I am completely dependent on him for money I am a burden to him at the minute it is not a good feeling I've had two jobs since I left school and ****ed them both up by taking huge amounts of diazepam to cope with the panic

 

[nikkixo]

Oh definitely..my brother is amazing.. he has one degree and he's going back to school for another one, he has the perfect girlfriend, he's really smart and funny and good looking and never gave them any trouble. He's my dad's favorite even if my dad won't admit it, they get along so well and me and my dad have a .. rocky relationship. I was always the one causing trouble and messing up and I got arrested and ever since then I haven't got along with them. I'm still in school but I have no idea what I want to do and I'm just kinda going and i know they feel like I'm wasting their money.. oh well.

 

[Labyrinthine]

I'm not certain disappointed would be the word I would use to describe their feelings towards me, but they definitely arent proud. Can't say I blame them, either.

 

[HiddenErin]

I don't think I've disappointed my parents. I think my parents understand that having my social anxiety neurosis is not something I wished upon myself, but it is something I have to constantly battle with. If anything I think my parents are proud of me, for fighting bravely and pushing myself 1 step ahead of my fears everyday.

 

[knowledgeofself]

yes.
but I think my mother is finally (hopefully) coming to terms with the prospect I won't amount to anything.

 

[Fighter86]

Never ever felt I disappointed my parents. In fact I felt they disappointed me gravely. As a child and later teenager they never helped me out when I issues in my life it was their resposibility they had brought me to this world but they did nothing. I know they feel I have dissapointed them but I know very well I haven't for whatever little progress I have made it was through my own effort no one helped me. They lost their rights to comment the day I put in 110% to help myself and they did nothing absolutely nothing.

 

[truffleshuffle]

Defently felt I have disappointed my family but worst of all I feel i have disappointed myself.