do you ever feel rude around others because of SA?

[Bo592]

Ya, I get this alot this is one of the reasson why I say I have SA. I have trouble saying " Thank you " to people when they do something nice for me. I have trouble saying "HELLO and good bye "one thing that I always lesson to wath people say" is we don`t really have to talk as much as we think we do." I Think about this alot when I am beating myself up over what to say.

 

[powerfulthoughts]

I think any time a person is ignoring someone, or giving them the cold shoulder, it will always appear rude. People with SA don't want to ignore people, but its the nature of the disorder; to avoid and hide. Until people with SA can eliminate this uneasiness around others, they will always be the target of misinterpretation.

The problem is that people with SA need to have some good rapport and emotional connections with others, yet this nature of the disorder doesn't allow that. I would assume that if SA'ers had one good, emotionally mature person to truly support them and bond with them on a deep level, that an emotional growth would occur in such a way as to pretty much cure the social phobia.

Child-like emotions and/or damaged emotions are the root of the problem. Thus emotional maturity and healing are the solution, which can only come from someone who deeply loves and cares for someone with this issue.

 

[How_slow_the_Wind]

Yeah, I unintentionally give impressions of being rude all the time. When I'm in a bad mood, such as depressed or anxious, my body language gives off the impression of being annoyed, when thats not really the case and I'm just sad. Sometimes, even when I'm in a good mood, I've had people comment on if I was upset, but they've just been misinterpreting my neutral expressions.

I usually just pass it off as being really tired, but deep down I'm really embarrassed about giving off vibes of being depressed.

 

[totoro]

Yep, it is common for people to misinterpret my quietness as rudeness or being a snob. I don't smile much and my natural expression looks 'bored' so it appears that I am disinterested when really I don't mean to come across like that at all!

 

[spring]

that happens A LOT.
from my early teenage years I realized that it was better to seem rude than a pathetic loser,and it was indeed better at that time.
but not anymore.

 

[Fembot]

Yes. I think sometimes because of my SA, I focus too much on myself and my own discomfort, instead of trying to be friendly and personable.