Do you crave social intereaction?

[skins]

even though its a sevre trigger for my anxiety, i find myself longing for it at times, its such a cruel paradox.

what i would give for a few close friends to knock about with on the odd occasion..web interactions just dont fullfill this.
even just to feel a sense of belonging somehow..to have imput...to have have your point of view respected, to feel your company is valued somehow.
Its hard with new friends as i don't feel comfortable for ages..but after a while i can truely open up and be myself, and thats when i shine...i have a great sense of humor, but these days i rarely get to express it to anyone. a quick wit is useless online, no-one can appreciate it as everyones has a chance to think about their replies and seem spontaneously funny. I havn't had any close friends for a while. i'm so frustrated right now...i think everyone needs a place they feel they belong, im deprived of that.

 

[jc972]

I agree. Talking online is great but in person is much better. It is hard to find good friends though. And sometimes it does take years to get comfortable with new friends. I only have one friend that I can truly be myself when I am around.

 

[Lamb]

I've never belonged anywhere and don't think I ever will, so I understand the feeling. It's probably a main cause of my despair. Not that I'd like to fit in specifically, just searching for acceptance. I hope you find what you're looking for.

 

[skins]

I've never belonged anywhere and don't think I ever will, so I understand the feeling. It's probably a main cause of my despair. Not that I'd like to fit in specifically, just searching for acceptance. I hope you find what you're looking for.

thanks lamb, thats just it though, i have sort of fitted in small groups before, its when you have a taste of it in the past, you sort of desire that feeling once again.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

I was just about to say no but if that were true I wouldn't spend so much time on this site. I obviously have a need to have my views shared but in the real world, I shutter from any attempt outside of a few close friends.

 

[A86]

I can see why its easy for some to feel depressed. longing for interaction but also fearing it must fustrate the mind with this sort of internal confliction.

 

[Lamb]

thanks lamb, thats just it though, i have sort of fitted in small groups before, its when you have a taste of it in the past, you sort of desire that feeling once again.

If you've attained it before, i do think it's possible to grasp at again. What would you say is preventing that? My assumption is SA.

 

[skins]

yeh SA is the cause..i was going to so partly SA, partly circumstance...but SA IS the cause of the circumstance really. when i think about, It's times when you are pretty much forced to socialise is when good things can happen...going to uni, school, having full time work etc, friendships are forged.
But im self employed at the moment so the opportunites arn't there...but like i said my circumstance is an indirect result of having SA as i've lost full time jobs because of the SA.

 

[BamanPiderman]

Yes, I really do.

When I see people who have friends who practically almost live with them and drop into their houses uninvited, but expected... it kind of makes me wish I had the same. Maybe not so much dropping in constantly, because I really do need my privacy sometimes. But to have someone that close that if they come to your house, or if you go to theirs, it's almost like having two homes, two places where you belong, I think would be great. I also wish I knew someone a little more like me, so I can do the things I love with people I love.

 

[spearhunter]

Yes, i often crave social interaction, but usually my anxiety gets in the way.And I force myself to fight that anxiety so that I get out of my comfort zone.

 

[Lea]

Not really, not for the sake of itself. Unless it´s some interesting people, or interesting subject of conversation.

 

[laure15]

At this point in time, I crave online interaction. I don't crave phone and face to face interactions because my verbal skills are still spotty.

 

[hidwell]

Only with women, and realistically that aint gonna happen.

 

[TableFor1]

I do. I have a few loyal friends, but I still find it tough to go out and see them - it is somehow very deep rooted. I am afraid to cut the few ties I have left. I really have to push myself to go out. I was invited to a bday dinner last weekend at a restaurant, but still had extreme anxiety before I left the house, the dread was really overwhelming. It turns out, I had an incredibly great time. I was so glad I went. At the end of the night, I was chatting with one of my girlfriends and she has the same issue, who knew?? Sometimes it pays to open up, but with caution. I opened up to two others last year, but they didn’t seem to get it and I felt like I was in a weak position and exposed afterward. I am careful now and tend to stay in the closet with my SA.

 

[skins]

dont get me wrong i do need my solitude time in order to function...its just a when you have too much of the one thing you want to experiance a bit of the other type deal.

 

[JuiceB]

I have a craving for it but cannot act most of the time. If I were able to better manage my SA to the point where I could be able to go places, meet new people and have fun it would become very addicting.