Do we all differ in what offends us?

[gardnerj]

If a teacher is giving me feedback, i usually don't take it personally. Otherwise there doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason to what offends me. I'm curious what offends all of you. Do you know?

 

[Harleyq]

I really only get offended when I feel someone isn't being tactful and reading their audience. It's hard to explain. For example, I don't mind jokes being made at my expense if I know the person well enough and the joke was only a joke and not an actual jab at my character/person. For example, my bf's family will make a joke about hoping there isn't a breeze out or I'll blow away cause I'm so light. That's fine. But then one time my friend said "You're too thin, you need to eat more" and when I said "I don't think that'll work" he went "No, unfortunately" - that's NOT fine.

Or if someone were to tell me "You're so quiet!" I won't be offended. But if someone were to go "Are you a mute?" I'd be offended.

IDK, maybe my system of what to be offended at only makes sense to me.

 

[Bar-AKA-Redzer]

Disrespect offends me

 

[reslo]

it offends me when one person is allowed to say their opinion, but then they get really offended if someone else gives theirs. I think as a shy person, people think they can walk all over me, and they can say what they want, and i don't have the right to say anything back... i try to remind myself that it doesn't matter if someone offends me because i frankly don't matter (doesn't always work, though.)

 

[Lonelykitsune]

When people at school ask me to move cos their saving a seat for theire friend(even if they ask politly)i feel humiliated cos it always happens so i either get to class early so they sit beside me or find a seat alone.And when teachers get annoyed at me when they cant hear me answer during rolll call,i just get pissed off whn that happens.

 

[funnybunny]

When people dont take me seriously and think Im some sort of joke, for example when I told my family I was going vegetarian, they laughed and took the piss. I feel like I have to constantly justify my decisions in life

 

[Emily_G]

The other thing that offend me are when people make fun of people who stutter.

 

[Noca]

If people tell me I'm "sooo skinny!" I get offended. If they treat me like im a 12 year old, I get offended too.

 

[Off The Wall]

I use to get offended at just about EVERYTHING! I mean i could always take a joke but its when people are actually being serious... I'm a little bit better now but i probably get offended at compliments more then anything..

like someone can say "oh your hair looks really like today" (which is a good thing right?) No i'd be like so it looks like sh!t every other day? haha.

Or this one person in particular i'd straigtened my hair everytime i'd seen him, then onetime i didn't cause it takes forever and i was in a hurry but he is like "Do you ever straighten your hair?" basically in a nicer way he was saying i hate your hair being curly you should straighten it?

i use to get given shit from everyone from being too skinny, i use to wear baggy clothes all the time, onetime i wore skinny leg jeans... and my friend is like "um are you turning anorexic?" No it's called i play lots of sport.. go try it.

I'd get given shit all the time for being quiet, i was more talkative around my friends and i met this chick from work out with her friends and i was actually talking a fair bit.. and then i went to work the next day and shes like "Ooo back to being mute"... that annoyed me..

when people say i have no friends that offends me.. even though it is true..

okay i've come to the conclusion that.. i dislike the truth lol.

i do have no friends, i was completely mute at work, look at old pics i was grossly skinny, my hair did look better straightened, my hair usually does like like crap most days cause i just wear it up but when i'm out i wear it down.. so that makes sense...

I guess it's the things that aren't true which you can joke about, unless i know you really well...

 

[tired_of_starting_again]

It offends me when people tell me I'm quiet or shy....
Like at a birthday party last August my uncle tells me: "You know you could talk more."
I know he didn't mean anything by it, but I was thinking "Goddamnit, if I could I would!"

I am quite sensitve to that kind of things, I really WANT to talk, I want to join in on conversations & be funny & witty & insightful like I can be online, or with my family at home.
If I could I would.

 

[Jake123]

It offends me when I'm opening up and letting myself have fun and people are all "OMG I'VE NEVER SEEN YOU LIKE THIS IMPOSSIBLE WHOA YOU'RE SMILING WOW WOW WOW I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'RE HAVING FUN"... it just instantly kills it and ruins the rest of the day, then after I go through the rest of the day miserable they bitch about me being quiet and not enjoying myself.

 

[danstelter]

Everyone has their own preferences and someone is always going to get offended by something. For me, it really offends me when people bash religion, claiming it has no good qualities to it and are so extreme to where they seem to want to rid the earth of its existence. Other than that, the only thing that really offends me is people who say things like they know it all and it's the only way things can possibly be.

I used to be sensitive to comments about my anxiety, but they have really stopped for the most part because most people can't see it in me, but it would bother me if someone said the right thing.

If there is no rhyme or reason as to why you get offended, check to see if something is underlying that. Is it just your mood, possibly? I can get irked sometimes by things that are said when I'm in the wrong mood, and so can other people. Just a thought.

 

[Miami]

It offends me when I'm opening up and letting myself have fun and people are all "OMG I'VE NEVER SEEN YOU LIKE THIS IMPOSSIBLE WHOA YOU'RE SMILING WOW WOW WOW I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'RE HAVING FUN"... it just instantly kills it and ruins the rest of the day, then after I go through the rest of the day miserable they bitch about me being quiet and not enjoying myself.

AHHH I hate that. I try to not let it get to me though

 

[Weirdo]

AHHH I hate that. I try to not let it get to me though

Happened to me too, I just smiled it off and said "so what?"

 

[Harleyq]

It offends me when I'm opening up and letting myself have fun and people are all "OMG I'VE NEVER SEEN YOU LIKE THIS IMPOSSIBLE WHOA YOU'RE SMILING WOW WOW WOW I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'RE HAVING FUN"... it just instantly kills it and ruins the rest of the day, then after I go through the rest of the day miserable they bitch about me being quiet and not enjoying myself.

Same here. That kind of response has worsened my SA because I've found that there are times where I'd like to be a bit more outgoing or silly and I contemplate it, but I don't go through because I know people will act all shocked about it.

 

[Cynic]

For me, it really offends me when people bash religion

Tough. Religion doesn't get bashed enough.

claiming it has no good qualities to it

There are more good qualities without it.

and are so extreme to where they seem to want to rid the earth of its existence.

Well the Earth would manage just fine without humans.

 

[PennyLane]

It offends me when I'm opening up and letting myself have fun and people are all "OMG I'VE NEVER SEEN YOU LIKE THIS IMPOSSIBLE WHOA YOU'RE SMILING WOW WOW WOW I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'RE HAVING FUN"... it just instantly kills it and ruins the rest of the day, then after I go through the rest of the day miserable they bitch about me being quiet and not enjoying myself.

Oh yeah this really pisses me off!!!

People pigeon hole you and then they never want to let you out!

 

[Snowdrop]

I get offended at pretty much anything and everything