Do these things annoy you?

[mikebird]

These are examples of what I face every single day, and send me straight into an immediate tantrum, which will always end in tears... not tears. Just anger. Crippling my social ability

1. Phone rings. "Hello"
Is that "Mike"? Can I speak to Mike?
You've got my number. You rang it. Who d'ya think it might be?
Is that Mike?

2. You applied for this position, yes?
*PAUSE*
Why are you asking me?
Have you got any meaningful questions to ask?
"Uh.. sorry?"


3. So, do you have exceptional communication skills?
If my mouth didn't work, we wouldn't be talking.
Although, when you ask me questions like that, I don't want to talk to you.

4. How are you?
Is this a good time to talk?

5. Can you hear me?
Yep
Ohh..
Can you hear me?
Yep
Ohhh..
Can you hear me?


6. What did you do in your last job?
It's on the CV.
But... how would describe it?
Well... *PAUSE* I'm a train driver.
Yes. That's what it says on the CV, but how do you do it?
I drive trains.
But I want to find out more about you.
Why? Do you drive trains?
No



These are people with serious problems. Not SP. I can't name it... in the way that the people who call me, and the boss / office people I spend time with cannot name SP.

 

[MsBuzzkillington]

I have to say for the first one, just because someone "has your number" doesn't mean that it's you that they are calling. I have dialed the wrong number a time or two in my life and it's quite embarrassing. If they want to make sure they have the right number, I don't see a problem with that.

During an interview the interviewer is going to be asking you questions to see how interested and qualified you are for the position. Someone asks to verify that you are applying for that position, you say yes. Someone asks you what you did on your last job you elaborate to say more than just "I drive trains." If someone came into my office and gave me that answer and had the attitude like yours, I wouldn't hire them. I am sure that there is a lot more detail that goes into driving trains. Or it sounds like it's something that I could just walk in, start the engine and do myself.

Asking if it's a good time to talk? Wouldn't you rather someone ask if you were too busy to get into a conversation rather than just blurt out what they have on their minds?

My mouth works just find, but my communication skills are something entirely different. I mean seriously... I can say "Apples, bananas and porcupines at the fair eat hot dogs on Tuesdays. and your home cat pumpkin corn?" Which clearly shows that my mouth is working, but also doesn't communicate my point at all.

It sounds like you are holding people to a much too high of a standard. None of the situations in which you described seem to be annoying. Nothing anyone did was wrong. I think with socializing you have to cut people a little bit of slack and don't assume that they are stupid. I am not sure what your level of SA/SP is so I can't really offer any advice as far as that goes. But I really think you need to relax and breathe and stop view people in such a poor light.

 

[dean01]

ha ha i have days like that....

are you ok is it a good time to ask?
yes im fine
sure youre ok?
yes im sure
so your ok then?
well i was until i met you

 

[deleted user 1]

Those are quite common Mike... far too common! lmao

There are quite a few more I could probably add as I go through the day. People saying things without actually thinking about what they are saying, lol.

 

[bigcat1967]

Those are quite common Mike... far too common!

For me as well.

I did like the first one - however, when I get a telemarketer call or a wrong number - I like to mess w/ them. I know it's wrong - but hey - it's kinda fun!

 

[mikebird]

To me, it's a psychological test.

I get deeply into a battle of seeing everything from one side, and not seeing the other's perspective.

The entire issue is with recruitment agencies. I call them and have to start by verifying who's who, because I call the switchboard / reception. When I have a DDI number, I'm confident who it is. Then if they're away and a colleague answers with "no - it's not Mr X. I'm Mr Y. How can I help"

Because I see things my way, I see a role advertised. I respond by sending my CV. If they have the CV, they have the number to call. It's not wrong. Who would apply for a position with someone else's number on there? I wouldn't do it when I would be away on holiday for the next fortnight. I wouldn't leave a child to answer the phone. I wouldn't send a CV full of lies. Who would ever do that? I wouldn't respond to a role I couldn't do. I wouldn't phone the person without sending the CV. I'm disturbed by the way people call me and ask me to "talk me through your CV" which brings the assumtion that he / she is unable to read, and I respond with "should have gone to SpecSavers", the ultimate need to be right there, smash my fist through their face until they stop breathing, whether my knuckles are still in place, or not.

I am not violent at all, but my feelings of anger are beyond my control. This is why I am utterly silent in any office, because I have to reign in my anger.

I suppose I have a way of doing things, and I simply cannot deal with any creature who does anything differently. That's my problem.

A level of intelligence is required. I can put up with anything. I've been in jail, worried I might not survive. The best friends I ever made in there kept me amused, entertained, showed me a different take on life. I read people's letters to them, wrote them for them, showed people how to read and write. I showed people how to play chess. Everyone loved it. I didn't expect that. I was in deep sorrow on the day that I left, to go home. I missed everyone. Life will never be like that again.

Skype would be better if we could make smells at one end, which the other person could smell. It would be great if we could have punchbags, so that the person could feel the scale of the hit transmitting straight into the face.

Video is a start, but below that, we're all stuck with a worldwide standard of candlestick 'phones, staring at the wall as we speak. Why? Not good enough. A smile does more than "can you hear me?"

I'm stuck in a world of those basic few methods of communicating, above.

If I was a recruiter, I would not call an applicant. I'd pass the CV to the hiring manager. That's why I'm not a recruiter. There is no place in this world for a recruiter. It's a black hole. It's a crime.

Company advertises the role. Candidate shows interest. CV = hired.

Is anyone on this site a recruiter?