And if you had actually approached her and discovered that you had absolutely nothing in common, you probably wouldn't look at her the same way ever again. Or maybe you would... but if that's the case, you're probably very immature.
You seem intent to reduce human beings to ONLY their basest qualities (eating, defecating, screwing)-- however most adults are capable of resisting those urges when it's in their best interests to do so, especially when giving into them means hooking up with some dodgy guy (or girl) who's only going to make them feel like s--t in the long run... or for that matter, defecating on the sidewalk or eating tree bark because you're hiking in the woods and forgot to bring snacks.
Sure we need to eat, sleep, etc... but we don't need to wear clothes, hold doors open for other people, help the poor, study philosophy, or read books-- and plenty of people do those things. This is because they are capable of overriding their base urges, thinking long-term, and trying to be responsible adults.
Of course we are more than our base urges but try going without eating for three days and then tell me if you interact with the world in the same way that you do right after a nice big meal!
Our base urges color our perceptions and interactions with the outside world.
Good example: yesterday I was haveing a very nice walk in the park on a nice fall day when all the sudden I had to urinate terribly and there was no suitable place to do so(without getting arrested hehe). I tried to ignore it with all my might but the urge was so strong that I had to run to the car and find a bathroom. And such is life.
My basic, biological urge colored my whole park walking experience.
Who said that women are magical creatures? I really don't think that not succumbing to your basest animal urges every single time you see someone of the opposite sex qualifies you as 'magical'. I don't consider myself 'magical', and I'm pretty good at not rabidly drooling over every woman I like the looks of. If I didn't hold women to the same standards as I hold myself, I don't think it would reflect very well on me.
Anything that is considered a scarcity takes on a high value, almost "mythical" quality. Look at gold, chemically it's just a metal but since it's rare people feel special when they wear it.
There are ALOT of guys out there dealing with a scarcity of female interaction. This amplifies the value of the feminine in their minds(which is already fortified with testosterone) and, as we have seen the consequences sometimes are not good.
This is why it's imperative that a man with this scarcity mentality breaks this cycle in his own mind for his own sense of peace.
Obviously there are people in this world who are better-looking/more physically attractive than others, but that doesn't mean that all women are programmed to f--k everyone they like the looks of, or that they're always going to reject the guy who is a little nervous about approaching because their 'program' tells them to.
Believe it or not, some people out there actually do approach dating/romance because they're interested in long term relationships, and those tend to involve a bit more than 'he's hot and I want to f--k him'. And when they find them, they will also cherish those relationships enough not to do things that will jeopardize them. This isn't just a woman thing, it's a human thing.
I agree to a point. Nothing is set in stone. But from what I have seen biology usually trumps all in a relationship.
I mean most people like their sugar sweet. And biology is the very foundation of what tells us what sweet means in a male/female sexual relationship.
Sure people can make a compromise and stay with someone that no longer gives them tingles but that doesn't mean they will be happy about it.
Mature, respectable women (and men) want someone they can wake up next to, smile at and actually feel good about being with..
A woman's sexual desires do change a bit as her fertility declines. She may approach these things a bit more pragmatically. However, a woman of any age, I would think, would rather be with a man who can give her some kind of biological tingle since that is what would keep the relationship sexually alive for her.
It's only the confused, immature girls who crave 'superior' genetic material so much that they don't care about anything else, and who are perfectly okay with quietly slipping away the next morning, feeling guilty as hell and trying to write it off as something that everyone is doing.
Young girls are at peak fertility. As far as nature is concerned they are doing exactly what they should be doing(except for the birth control) which is selectively mating. The problem that young girls face is finding a man who they feel is of high quality and getting him to commit. Or they have so many men to choose from that they can't be sure that they are getting the "best". So they go from one to the next to the next to the next.
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