becomingmyself
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Hey guys... I have always wondered what everyones experience has been with trying to date with Hyperhidrosis. I'm thinking more towards Palmar Hyperhidrosis, but if you find it difficult to date with other kinds, please respond as well. How do you do it? If you've been honest with someone about your problem, how did you face it? Any awkward moments where someone noticed the sweat?
My experience with it has been interesting. I grew up without Hyperhidrosis, and never really had any guys interested in me. I was always jealous of all the other girls because I just wasn't as pretty or social. But then at sixteen when I developed HH, I have been shocked at how many guys have asked me out since then. I've gotten asked out more and more the worse my HH has gotten. Are guys attracted to girls that just don't care? It's either that or I evolved. Hyperhidrosis did help me to decide who I am. I dress the way I want to and I keep a strong image of confidence. The confidence was my way of keeping people away, thinking it would intimidate people. I've been told I intimidate the crap out of people, which feels better to me than sitting in the corner being vulnerable. But in all that, I tend to hate when people invade my space and decide to talk to me anyways. That's when it backfires.
Every time I get asked out, I get this awful feeling... like "Oh no, I have to go through this all over again." It's rare that I'm interested in a guy, but when I am its usually one that I know I can keep far away from me. But then if I ever talk to them, they end up having feelings for me and then I tell them I'm not interested, because I'm too scared to tell them about my problem.
Dating itself hasn't really been the problem, as long as it consists of many first dates where no physical contact is involved, or "friend dates" where the guy is totally interested but knows I'm not interested back. And stays around anyways just in case something changes. Anyways, you get the idea that guys don't stick around that long for me. And if I like them, well I'll admit it's heartbreaking because I usually end up pretending I never had and never will have feelings for them. I guess I'm just waiting for some guy to say "Hey, I want to be with you, please tell me everything about what's going on with you and I'll accept you for it." and then stay around to listen. That'll be the day.
Anyways, thoughts? Feelings? Anyone not had their first kiss because of it? (Yup... that's me, 21 and never been kissed). Anyone find a person who is incredibly accepting of you?
My experience with it has been interesting. I grew up without Hyperhidrosis, and never really had any guys interested in me. I was always jealous of all the other girls because I just wasn't as pretty or social. But then at sixteen when I developed HH, I have been shocked at how many guys have asked me out since then. I've gotten asked out more and more the worse my HH has gotten. Are guys attracted to girls that just don't care? It's either that or I evolved. Hyperhidrosis did help me to decide who I am. I dress the way I want to and I keep a strong image of confidence. The confidence was my way of keeping people away, thinking it would intimidate people. I've been told I intimidate the crap out of people, which feels better to me than sitting in the corner being vulnerable. But in all that, I tend to hate when people invade my space and decide to talk to me anyways. That's when it backfires.
Every time I get asked out, I get this awful feeling... like "Oh no, I have to go through this all over again." It's rare that I'm interested in a guy, but when I am its usually one that I know I can keep far away from me. But then if I ever talk to them, they end up having feelings for me and then I tell them I'm not interested, because I'm too scared to tell them about my problem.
Dating itself hasn't really been the problem, as long as it consists of many first dates where no physical contact is involved, or "friend dates" where the guy is totally interested but knows I'm not interested back. And stays around anyways just in case something changes. Anyways, you get the idea that guys don't stick around that long for me. And if I like them, well I'll admit it's heartbreaking because I usually end up pretending I never had and never will have feelings for them. I guess I'm just waiting for some guy to say "Hey, I want to be with you, please tell me everything about what's going on with you and I'll accept you for it." and then stay around to listen. That'll be the day.
Anyways, thoughts? Feelings? Anyone not had their first kiss because of it? (Yup... that's me, 21 and never been kissed). Anyone find a person who is incredibly accepting of you?