Crushes

[Looking_in105]

do you guys tend to ALWAYS fall for people that you know you'll never have a chance with? ie. because they are "too cool/popular", married...

if you do, why do u think this is?

 

[vj288]

Well since that's how I see everyone yes.

 

[mmmm]

Imagine this scenario: Your crush walks up to you right this minute while you are reading this. He or she says something about going out together.

What would your reaction be? I would stutter something stupid and act like a total idiot and then I would convince myself that this person could not possibly like me now that they know what I am really like. Then I would start treating them as if they didn't like me and I knew it. I guess I could handle the situation a lot more easily if my crush had a solid excuse for not liking me. "Oh, I'm in a relationship." would sort of absolve me of any responsibility for them not liking me.

I get the feeling I'm making no sense. Whatever, I tried.

 

[JamesSmith]

Most times I've had a crush, I usually believed I had a shot. I just never had the guts to be persistent and keep talking to the girl except for the one g/f I've had, and the only reason that worked is because she pretty much told me we would go on a date the first or second time I talked to her. I really don't understand how all these people in the world constantly get into these relationships with people. I'm pretty scared of if I did talk to some girls of the outcome and even more afraid of hanging with them and being around other people. I've never been good at talking with a group of people. I usually just have one phrase answers and never initiate conversation.

 

[EscapeArtist]

Yeah, I do! And you just made me realize that! Thankyou. It's because, then I see myself as not being able to be with them, so I do not have to worry about human interaction issues, and feelings of inferiority.

 

[Why]

hah i know the feeling...

get a crush then ponder "why would such a pretty girl go for a guy like me when hundreds of normal guys porbably go after her"

 

[Kiwong]

In the past, yes. The last time I really fell for someone, which was ten years ago, it was unrequieted, and it destroyed me. I thought this person might say no, but I wouldn't be hurt. I was. It was also the catalyst for much of the social anxety and panic disorder that I feel now. I don't think there is any point in obsessing over someone that you don't know very well.

 

[combat]

I really don't understand how all these people in the world constantly get into these relationships with people.

Same here. ::

 

[Looking_in105]

I really don't understand how all these people in the world constantly get into these relationships with people.

me too! i honestly don't understand how some people i know get into relationships (no offence). they just seem so shy, quiet, anti social, i just wonder how they met their other half maybe i should ask.....