Josette
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I basically fired my therapist the week before last. I said I was never coming back. I said after 11 years, she hadn't fixed me, so what was the point. I did, even in the midst of my hysteria, acknowledge that she couldn't fix me. That she couldn't help me if I wouldn't help myself. But still. I was mad at her for not doing more. For not being more aggressive, pushing me harder.
So I left and was upset the rest of the week. Crashing hard. Crying jags every day. Cut myself (first time ever...didn't really do anything for me), starved myself for 2 days (don't know what the point of that was) thought a lot about suicide (found this site while researching it actually). And over the weekend, other sh** happened to just about drive me over the edge. In my desperation to talk to someone, I called my therapist and left her a voice mail sobbing and babbling like a lunatic. I'm totally embarrassed about that message now.
Anyhow, I kinda felt like I had to go back after leaving that message. Which I'm doing on Monday. I'm trying to be pro-active instead of moping in my apartment. So I've decided I need to switch therapists to one who does CBT or get my therapist to do CBT sort of. She's not a CBT therapist; she does classic talk therapy. I'm bringing her a list of therapists that take my insurance and do CBT to ask if she's familiar with and can recommend any of them.
I hate starting over with someone new though. And, I do trust and like this therapist. I kind of have a low tolerance for stupidity and she doesn't ping my moron radar at all. And she doesn't play games and she's always straight up. So I'm also going to ask her if she can just be more aggressive. She has said in the past that she doesn't push me because I shut down. Which is true, I guess. But if I commit to challenging myself and ask her to push me, to hold me accountable to my goals, I think she will. I dunno. We'll see what she says.
The other alternative, as mentioned, is switching to a CBT therapist. I don't even really know what CBT is, but I've got it in my head that it's the magic potion to finally cure me.
So I left and was upset the rest of the week. Crashing hard. Crying jags every day. Cut myself (first time ever...didn't really do anything for me), starved myself for 2 days (don't know what the point of that was) thought a lot about suicide (found this site while researching it actually). And over the weekend, other sh** happened to just about drive me over the edge. In my desperation to talk to someone, I called my therapist and left her a voice mail sobbing and babbling like a lunatic. I'm totally embarrassed about that message now.
Anyhow, I kinda felt like I had to go back after leaving that message. Which I'm doing on Monday. I'm trying to be pro-active instead of moping in my apartment. So I've decided I need to switch therapists to one who does CBT or get my therapist to do CBT sort of. She's not a CBT therapist; she does classic talk therapy. I'm bringing her a list of therapists that take my insurance and do CBT to ask if she's familiar with and can recommend any of them.
I hate starting over with someone new though. And, I do trust and like this therapist. I kind of have a low tolerance for stupidity and she doesn't ping my moron radar at all. And she doesn't play games and she's always straight up. So I'm also going to ask her if she can just be more aggressive. She has said in the past that she doesn't push me because I shut down. Which is true, I guess. But if I commit to challenging myself and ask her to push me, to hold me accountable to my goals, I think she will. I dunno. We'll see what she says.
The other alternative, as mentioned, is switching to a CBT therapist. I don't even really know what CBT is, but I've got it in my head that it's the magic potion to finally cure me.