Hey,
Before I go into detail about what this post is supposed to be about I figured I'd introduce myself seeing as this is my first post here.
My name is Adam, I'm 17 and I've always had a habit of doing things alone and the hard way, I simply refuse to do things the easy way because I have some strange complex with myself where I have to prove I can achieve things that I don't believe I can. If something's too easy I lose interest, where as when things are hard it motivates me to challenge myself and push myself.. This really isn't a good thing seeing as I'm asthmatic and most of this 'pushing' goes into sports.
I also have a great tendency to never trust people, I enjoy people telling me things about themselves but avoid talking about myself at all costs. When people start asking too many questions about me I tend to distance myself as much as I can or push them away completely.
Anyway, on topic now..
Despite me being 17 I crave a long lasting and love filled relationship, I want someone who will be there for me, someone I can trust.. But I can never bring myself to trust anyone, I can never bring myself to tell people things about myself.. Heck, I find it difficult to show feelings to people in general (even family members) due to me being afraid of appearing weak.
I've always looked around me and seen people in close friend groups, people in relationships that seem happy. And then there's me, socially excluding myself.. Not allowing myself to connect with people, share with people. I've been told that I appear cold to people before, by someone who was once a friend but grew tired of me distancing myself every time she asked questions about me or my past.
I guess another reason behind me being distant to people is because I have a fear of rejection and criticism. I'd say I'm quite self conscious and find it near impossible to take a compliment. It also doesn't help that people I should be able to trust and rely on have just picked up and walked out on me.
One of the things that bothers me most out of all of the above is that I have quite literally no one I can talk to, if I have a problem I'm forced to deal with it myself. My mother has and always will be there for me, but every time she sees I'm upset or have a problem she has a tendency to get upset, and because of that I tend to keep everything to myself.
I've been told that at some point in my life I'll meet someone who'll change me, someone who'll get rid of all the anxiety, fear of rejection and judgement, but I really can't see that happening seeing as even people I love and like, I push away.
I guess the whole point of me writing this is to see if anyone else has similar problems as I have.. And to get it off my chest without fear of judgment, seeing as I'll most likely never see anyone on this forum in person.
Thanks for reading
Before I go into detail about what this post is supposed to be about I figured I'd introduce myself seeing as this is my first post here.
My name is Adam, I'm 17 and I've always had a habit of doing things alone and the hard way, I simply refuse to do things the easy way because I have some strange complex with myself where I have to prove I can achieve things that I don't believe I can. If something's too easy I lose interest, where as when things are hard it motivates me to challenge myself and push myself.. This really isn't a good thing seeing as I'm asthmatic and most of this 'pushing' goes into sports.
I also have a great tendency to never trust people, I enjoy people telling me things about themselves but avoid talking about myself at all costs. When people start asking too many questions about me I tend to distance myself as much as I can or push them away completely.
Anyway, on topic now..
Despite me being 17 I crave a long lasting and love filled relationship, I want someone who will be there for me, someone I can trust.. But I can never bring myself to trust anyone, I can never bring myself to tell people things about myself.. Heck, I find it difficult to show feelings to people in general (even family members) due to me being afraid of appearing weak.
I've always looked around me and seen people in close friend groups, people in relationships that seem happy. And then there's me, socially excluding myself.. Not allowing myself to connect with people, share with people. I've been told that I appear cold to people before, by someone who was once a friend but grew tired of me distancing myself every time she asked questions about me or my past.
I guess another reason behind me being distant to people is because I have a fear of rejection and criticism. I'd say I'm quite self conscious and find it near impossible to take a compliment. It also doesn't help that people I should be able to trust and rely on have just picked up and walked out on me.
One of the things that bothers me most out of all of the above is that I have quite literally no one I can talk to, if I have a problem I'm forced to deal with it myself. My mother has and always will be there for me, but every time she sees I'm upset or have a problem she has a tendency to get upset, and because of that I tend to keep everything to myself.
I've been told that at some point in my life I'll meet someone who'll change me, someone who'll get rid of all the anxiety, fear of rejection and judgement, but I really can't see that happening seeing as even people I love and like, I push away.
I guess the whole point of me writing this is to see if anyone else has similar problems as I have.. And to get it off my chest without fear of judgment, seeing as I'll most likely never see anyone on this forum in person.
Thanks for reading