IcarusUnderWater2
Banned
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IcarusUnderWater2 said:once upon a time i had friends.
But... i never actually initiated meeting up etc... i always left them to do it.
If they didnt phone me etc then i felt offended but i would then automatically say to myself "i don't need them anyway"... and the cycle of elitism and self segregation began.
I never had the guts to ask friends to do things... partly because i was afraid that they would say "i already have plans, sorry" and then i would feel very alone and ANGRY. I never learnt the art of inviting myself along to things.
It must have been such hard work being friends with me because i gave little in the way of initiating contact. I actually made it hard work for them too because thoughts of meeting up made me nervous and they would end up asking me 5 times before i gave a definite answer.
I am not sure how to break the cycle. If i contacted my ex best friend he would probably be pleased to meet up... but by me making myself ask him i would be admitting that i am not the centre of the universe as it were and my ego/personality can't handle it.
so basically...
on one hand i am pretending that i am really successful and this anti social behaviour is part of the process of success.
on the other hand i can see how flawed my logic is but i am too scared/stubborn/insecure to do anything about it.
oh jeezuz my mind is overloading with thoughts :wink: 8O
dan_e said:I feel like I'm bothering them.
An excellent point Danfalc! Very well said.we do have to remember people widout anxiety can be just as sensative as us If we dont explain to them why...how can they know? there going to come to there own conclusions
dan_e said:An excellent point Danfalc! Very well said.
IcarusUnderWater2 said:on one hand i am pretending that i am really successful and this anti social behaviour is part of the process of success.
on the other hand i can see how flawed my logic is but i am too scared/stubborn/insecure to do anything about it.
dan_e said:I feel like I'm bothering them.