cmon its not that bad :)

[Sikwitit]

Look i know its hard ive been their matter of a fact it took me 7 long years to get wher i am today. It gets better but you have to give some effort an stop feeling sorry for yourself nobody can help you but you... cry cry i cant do it or its hard blah blah blah i dont want to hear it.

You gotta take a look at your life an see what you wanna change then slowly work towards that goal. I mean it could be something as simple as saying hi to somebody, just say hi "Make sure they can hear you" see what their reaction is.

Look them in the eye dont look away like your ashamed hold you head high, dont let anybody make you feel your lesser then them. I guess that could be a start hold your head high an look people in the eye im not talking staring but hold your gaze for a few secs an go about your business.

An you throw in a smile with that gaze an thats how you meet people if they smile back then it means, hey im friendly you can talk to me.

But if you go around head low eyes to the ground of course your not gonna make any friends, an your stuck in this shit hole the rest of your life until you decide to get off your ass an try!!!

People really dont care what you look like or what your doing their more worried about their life then yours. Yea some people might talk about you but who cares tell them to fuck off... Thats another thing dont let anybody take advantage of you, if u dont wanna do something then just say you dont wanna do it, who cares what they say u dont wanna do it!!

All i can do is share my story an hopefully it will inspire atleast one person :lol:

I mean cmon im 23 years old i have a brand new truck im dating 3 girls an living the ez life. You think any of this shit would be going on if i sat on my ass thinking about suicide?

Playing video games all day CS,Diablo 2,Age of empires,tribes,quake,halo you name it i played it back then.

I would go off into my own little world not thinking about real life watching everybody pass me by in life feeling like a little kid still.

I can go on an on with my life story but i know you dont wanna read all that bs. If anybody wants to talk pm me

 

[TheWall]

The thing is I have tried to make friends and stuff but people just didn't accept/like me.

 

[billy]

yeah ive tried making friends ive gone out with my one friend friends around 10x but my anxiety just took me over 9/10x and the last time i wanted to talk but i guess im just not funny so yeah they dont invite me anymore that would have been the best place to start a friendship too too bad i fail at life

 

[Sikwitit]

Try again an if u fail try again, if life was that easy everybody would be happy.

I really wish i could meet some of the people here, i mean your not gonna get results over night. You have to take it slow but not trying at all isnt going to get you anywher.

I dont know what to say other then theirs light at the end of the tunnel but its gonna take alot of effort.

 

[dottie]

deleted because i don't like how i came across. my apologies to the O.P.

 

[Marie_knowsbest]

dottie. fuck yaself. your like a hypocondriact who thinks inless people r screaming i wanna die, they cant have a problem. and whats worse is that its almost as if you dont like the fact that sikwitt has managed to resolve their problems, just by using straight foward methods.

sikwitt basicly nailed it on the head!! although i never had social anxiety, i had self esteem issues which made me feel like less of a person at one point, ya know how i also sorted out my life? i done the exact same thing sikwitt did! day by day just tried things out, i stopped worrying, and simply just 'was'. i was a person, going about my buissness. im not realy a talk to strangers in the street person anyways, coz i just dont see the point lol nothing to do with being shy, i just dont see the point. people i work with, live with, go to skool with, or mix with at clubs i speak to, because im gonna see em again, and i actualy want to get to know em better. who gives a fuck about making a friend at the bus stop? most people dont care about makng a friend at the bus stop! because life is busy, alone at a bus stop, i just wanna sit and do my thing really. most people do.

so like sikwitt said. if u fail, try again and again again. this trait is one that a succesful person has, u cant succeed inless you have failed something to then succeed at.

 

[Marie_knowsbest]

dottie - what was offensiive to you that sikwitt wrote for u to tell them to leave and call them a troll? lol?

i think ur the troll to be honest, because u probs post on all the suicide threads like 'yes i do please' and then go on the 'something that might help you' threads, and tell them to fuck off??

why would u even write on a website about ur problem if u had no intention of listening to solutions?

fucking crazy.

 

[Doomed2Die]

the fact that sikwitt has managed to resolve their problems, just by using straight foward methods.

Is it really so difficult to even consider that maybe, just maybe some people cannot be helped using straight forward methods? You know, like the whole entire reason why it's a problem in the first place?

Anyway, congratulations Sikwitit... I guess. Can I ask what motivated you to break out of depression?

 

[Marie_knowsbest]

i didnt actualy say that a simple method should work for anyone. i am aware everyone is different.

i was sayin it in context to my point that dottie is not being happy with the fact sikwitt was helped by USING merely a simple method.

 

[Marie_knowsbest]

if u read the hole sentance, it is quite clear wot i mean.

 

[Doomed2Die]

if u read the hole sentance, it is quite clear wot i mean.

sikwitt basicly nailed it on the head!! although i never had social anxiety...

I tried, I really did. But honestly, (serious)SA is forever underplayed, and I cannot stress how detrimental this is for understanding the thing. It is very easy to underplay it, considering how alien the irrational fear seems to someone without SP/SAD.

 

[TheWall]

I tried, I really did. But honestly, (serious)SA is forever underplayed, and I cannot stress how detrimental this is for understanding the thing. It is very easy to underplay it, considering how alien the irrational fear seems to someone without SP/SAD.

So true.

 

[VioletTears]

Well, honestly I was kind of turned off by this post before I even opened it, because a title stating "it's not that bad" just automatically tells me, this person doesn't understand... Yes, it IS that bad... When I would rather slit my wrist than face another day, when I struggle to even enjoy being a mother to the person who I love more than anyone in the world (including myself), when the only purpose in going on living is to avoid hurting people... it IS that bad.... And no, not everyone is alike. Just because one person made it through okay doesn't mean everyone else can.

I'm 27 years old and I work 40 hours per week in a social setting... I have never NOT gone to school/college and/or worked full time. I have always lived a life surrounded by people. And at work, I have always been forced to interact with people. And no, it hasn't gotten easier. Not even a little bit. I keep plowing through because I need to help support my family but it's extremely hard on me and when people say that you just need to force yourself to interact... well, I do that, and even after all these years it still has me feeling that I would rather just fall asleep and never have to wake up to another day...

So to the original poster... It's great that you got over your issue... and maybe you CAN help some people... but please don't undermine people's suffering and presume that what worked for you will work for everyone... We are not all like you...

 

[Infected_Malignity]

it really i sn't that bad guys. especially when you think of matters of life and death. it's just not worth worrying about. maybe everybody gets sweaty palms at one point in their life. maybe everybody experiences the racing heart.

maybe we're ALL looking way too hard into it. maybe it's so simple that we've missed the point all this time. maybe there's hope for all of us.

 

[Marie_knowsbest]

yeh i mean its not a case of that i cannot sympothise with how some of you feel. i know sometimes it doesnt matter what the reality is, if its real to you, then thats the reality you live in.

maybe some of you will never find it easy to talk to people as such, but you can defo find ways of just accepting yourself for who u r. were all bad at something, and some people r just bad at socialising! like some people r as thick as shit bless em, but they have to accept this and do things which they can do instead.

some people who r even good at socialising, dont like it! so they would rather sit by themselves, even tho they havent got social anxiety. others r brilliant at socialising, but have not got anyone they call an actual friend. i personally know people like what ive just said. im good at socialising, but only with people who r simlair to myself, anyone i dont have a common ground with, i dont know what to say to them! but thats ok ya know. im cool with that.

i truly believe social anxiety is strongly linked with self esteem issues. for those of you who struggle with the curing SA root, take the building up your self esteem root. see how u feel after that. i dont mean do it for a week, i mean actualy start from today and dont stop. then u WILL feel different once it starts to help, and then my advice would be to go from there foward with things, it can take many years ya know. like sikwitt said it took em 7 years.

 

[Rodox]

Well to me it isnt that easy,when the anxiety, panic attack/fight or flight response sets in, I am not really in a position to have control of my mind to not get away,hide or look away,if I dont or cant do that it just gets worse.......

 

[Lea]

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[de]

the main reason for sa being so nderstated as a disorder is the fact that everon experiences anxiety and nerves in social situations so most people reaction when they here sa being described is to sy yea i know get that too but i just do this or do that the reaction is usually you are infereior becasue i get the same feelings but i can deal with them but you cant when iin reality we experince anxiety paranoya and nerves on a completly differnt level

there are 2 groups of people with sa or problems with anxiety in general 1/are the unfortunates who are born with a pre-dispostion to being anxous these no matter what they do meds are other wise may improve the siituation but will never be completly free from sa because its part of there genetic make-up
2/then there are the others who develop it as a result of an external event , traumatic or other these have the potential to be completly free from the burden of sa and in effect return to the way they were or should be

no matter what your situation everyone who has been diagnosed with sa expereinces the same ungodly fear of any sort of social situation the one truth is that unless you keep trying to overcome it through exposure and therapy your situation is not going to get any better,you canbe sure you will not wake up tommorrow and everything will be hunky dory it just dosnt work like that nothing in lif is ever that simple

so you can accept the fact that youhave been dealt a shite hand and fold or you can make the most of the cards you have bee dealt

 

[Marie_knowsbestt]

lea - so would u say that you feel 100% ok with yourself, u like who u r etc, and u dont feel nervous around people because u think ur inferior, u just feel nervous because of your physical symptoms?
like when u said about sitting with someone in the car, can talk completely free and easy, but u just cant look them in the eye for example?
have u been diagnosed with sa? or sa and something else? or something else completely?

 

[Lea]

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