Choosing to be happier against all odds!

[Quietguy11]

This I found has been the hardest thing for me to actually put into practice. Sometimes I feel so miserable that I just don't want to show a positive attitude to people. I have called it being antisocial more than once. But I find that when my attitude is bad, along with bad feelings of anxiety and whatever else, it just tops off the misery. Not only am I not feeling good, but I'm also acting in a negative manner, which makes me even more unapproachable by people who may want to get into my circle a little bit. I have always pushed people away, not intentionally, but because I don't feel good about myself most of the time and I don't want to have to explain that or share that with anyone because unless they really care to listen they are not going to get it. So I am choosing to follow a life philosophy that I am not going to let my attitude coexist with my feelings. I may feel miserable, but my attitude will be good toward people, and because it will be good, I can at least know that I'm trying, and putting in the effort to be the best person I can be.

 

[Kiwong]

good luck Quietguy.

 

[jaim38]

This is what I'm trying to do too. I let my emotions get to me and influence my attitude towards other people. It happened many times. I finally realize that the emotions I'm feeling are NOT me. If you read the Power of Now, Ekhart Tolle reached the same conclusion: that you are not your emotions, you are the observer behind all the thoughts and feelings. The mind is just a tool, but very often we let the mind enslave us instead of the other way around. You have the power to take control of your mind and make it work for you.

 

[ukmale]

Truly best of luck to you people

But for me I can only feel bitter and anger at the world and most of the people init been just been to long not to

 

[Quietguy11]

It's not easy, but so far I've been able to do it, and it's making me feel a lot better about myself. I'm not being happy-go-lucky or anything like that, like I don't have a problem in the world. I'm just choosing not to let others influence how I feel. What was hard for me was conditioning my mind this way, because feeling miserable, made me want to act the same. But when I started acting out in good humor despite how I actually felt, it actually lessened the pressure and made me feel more happier in my own skin. This is something that I decided after going through a LONG period where I was just negative about everything, it was really rubbing off on people the wrong way, and it was making me feel like shit. And I know there's going to be bad days where it's like next to impossible to be in good humor, but that's being human, every day can't be perfect, but as long as it is within my power, I will do whatever I can to not let people influence how I feel.