Can't get a date

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Jesushasomeoneforme

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I can't get a date. I do love me. Women gain interest and lose interest within 30 seconds. Why? My anxiety. I'm not 100 percent comfortable with self. Can't help it. Women can't look beyond what they see and hear. Anyone else have this difficulty. would like advice.
 
iamthenra

iamthenra

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Join the club Alfalfa... You know, the: "He man woman haters club."
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Harleyq

Harleyq

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iamthenra said:
Join the club Alfalfa... You know, the: "He man woman haters club."
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Lol, and when a girl talks to you, you can just scare her away by "whipping out your lizard"

Honestly, though, the best thing I can think of is to keep trying - the more you do it, the more comfortable you become. And I mean keep trying to socialize, not just keep trying to pick up a girl. If not being able to relax is your problem, then that's what you need to work on. Maybe look into getting some therapy if you haven't already.
 
Lorraine Manca

Lorraine Manca

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don't date! its too serious and intense, and it feels like an interrogation. find something else that will make you happy. there's more than one way to skin a cat.
 
Phobologist

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Jesushasomeoneforme said:
I can't get a date. I do love me. Women gain interest and lose interest within 30 seconds. Why? My anxiety. I'm not 100 percent comfortable with self. Can't help it. Women can't look beyond what they see and hear. Anyone else have this difficulty. would like advice.
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Yea it really burns me up. I only got laid in the past by pretending to be a different person, or by putting on airs, particulary acting as if I didn't have defects and attempting to communicate this through seeming overly confident, assertive, reserved, and so forth. It was a disaster, however.

You won't get any pussy or have any relationships until either your SA gets better, or you get relatively good at putting on fake or altered personas. The best thing to do is to work on your SA, because acting will make your social phobia worse.
 
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dates is it!!! **** all that carry on!!
the guy always has to pay for everything, and what does he get in return!!
nothing!!
unless the guy pretends to be gay!
 
iamthenra

iamthenra

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FOR REAL said:
dates is it!!! **** all that carry on!!
the guy always has to pay for everything, and what does he get in return!!
nothing!!
unless the guy pretends to be gay!
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Oh that is SOOOO true! I paid a little over $1600. for my first date... Albeit I flew 3 hours to Florida and paid for everything when I got there... She just let me pay for everything. You would have thought that since I flew there to meet her, that she would have at least offered to pay for entertainment when I arrived? BUT NOOOOOOOO.... I had to pay for EVERYTHING! Rrrrrrr Just a big pain the wallet! :cool:
 
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Jesushasomeoneforme

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People all they do is judge me for anxiety that is chemical imbalance of the brain. I feel so hopeless sometimes. Now, you now why I watch porn so I don't get rejected. Every girl I am interested in rejects me yet complains guys treat her like dirt. I treat her better than the guys she is interested in. I'm not the one with the problem.
 
Phobologist

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iamthenra said:
Oh that is SOOOO true! I paid a little over $1600. for my first date... Albeit I flew 3 hours to Florida and paid for everything when I got there... She just let me pay for everything. You would have thought that since I flew there to meet her, that she would have at least offered to pay for entertainment when I arrived? BUT NOOOOOOOO.... I had to pay for EVERYTHING! Rrrrrrr Just a big pain the wallet! :cool:
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WTF! :eek:
 
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iamthenra said:
Oh that is SOOOO true! I paid a little over $1600. for my first date... Albeit I flew 3 hours to Florida and paid for everything when I got there... She just let me pay for everything. You would have thought that since I flew there to meet her, that she would have at least offered to pay for entertainment when I arrived? BUT NOOOOOOOO.... I had to pay for EVERYTHING! Rrrrrrr Just a big pain the wallet! :cool:
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Yea...why do men have to pay for every ****ing thing? btw, whos the idiot who created this rule. I will do it out of being a nice guy, but for sure i will not spend 1.6k on a date. That's just insane...
 
Harleyq

Harleyq

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Yea...why do men have to pay for every ****ing thing? btw, whos the idiot who created this rule. I will do it out of being a nice guy, but for sure i will not spend 1.6k on a date. That's just insane...
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I agree. I hate double standards in general. My bf used to feel really awkward whenever I offered to pay..I think he still does to some degree. But why shouldn't a girl pay once in a while? We can make our own money nowadays...

I had a friend who had the attitude of "I'd hit a man but even if she hits me, I'll never hit a woman back because I respect women" and I told him straight up, that kind of attitude was more condescending than respectful because it comes from a stigma that basically says "There's no way you could kick my ass so it would be totally unfair to hit you". I say if she has enough balls to hit anybody, then she's got enough balls to take a hit. Plus I see no reason why women should be respected any more than men should.
 
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