Blushing with eye contact

[Falkor]

Hey there,

It sounds really strange, but with basically anyone, I start to blush or get weird feelings in my stomach. it's really embarrassing. I don't like them at all. It even happens with family members when they look in my eyes, like they can touch my soul (lolz) well I mean, they drill my eyes, it's like when someone looks at me, the feeling is too close, what is it what i have with eye contact?

How about you guys? And whatcha think?

 

[Azunyan]

I had this up to when i was about 15 or so, but i dont really have any magic answer.
But i think what helped me was that i tried to look back even for just a little bit, increasing it gradually. A tip is to look not directly into the eyes but near them, the other person wont know the diffrence but it can feel easier for you.

 

[Donnieboy]

I had it even worse until I ended up on medication which help about 40%-60%. When I say this, it doesn't mean that you also need one. It just give you an opportunity to realsize that its fine if people look at you. Idk your gender but I am a guy and i usually look away when a female look in my way cause I am scared she will think i am creek/wierd or checking her out. When a guy is looking in my direction I usually look at him kind of in aggressive and intimidating way(i guess medication worked a bit)(no i am not gay ) But the more I go out the more I get used to it.

 

[laure15]

Sometimes I stiffen when someone looks me in the eye, especially if that person is attractive. I try not to blush though because I don't want people to think I have a crush on them. For some reason, I associate eye contact with romance, especially when I see 2 people gazing at each other and smiling.

 

[hardy]

Dear,
I have this problem too...i think it's the guilt, the embarrassment/shame that shows up in our eyes.
And then when there are thoughts of shame there is a resultant sensation of uneasiness in stomach or heart or the head region.It's the law's of nature, when ever there is shame...there is uneasiness in the body. Please read the article i posted in your other forum.

Or read it here:The Art of Living: Vipassana Meditation