WishingICould
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I just don't understand why people feel they have the right to say anything. I wouldn't dream of saying that to a stranger.
Being told i don't smile enough.
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I just don't understand why people feel they have the right to say anything. I wouldn't dream of saying that to a stranger.
ImNotMyIllness
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Next time someone tells you to smile. Do this!!
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mikebird
Banned
I've never been accused of that, which is odd, in a family who, are all based on smiles & exuberance.
The usual phrase I hear, and the time I see a stranger (ie, interviewer) displays their 'head-in-hands / OMG reaction which I see in their eyes when they give up on me.
Apparently, I talk too much. All about me, and my problems. The reaction is either passive, not really willing to listen, or aggressively talking over me and cutting me off with criticism.
I was praised as the very best creative essay writer, at different schools. The one to stand up and read through the teacher's favourite composition, mostly with fantasy, spiralling outworldly metaphorical ways of describing events as non-bog-standard.
The usual phrase I hear, and the time I see a stranger (ie, interviewer) displays their 'head-in-hands / OMG reaction which I see in their eyes when they give up on me.
Apparently, I talk too much. All about me, and my problems. The reaction is either passive, not really willing to listen, or aggressively talking over me and cutting me off with criticism.
I was praised as the very best creative essay writer, at different schools. The one to stand up and read through the teacher's favourite composition, mostly with fantasy, spiralling outworldly metaphorical ways of describing events as non-bog-standard.
BamanPiderman
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Yeah, I get asked to smile a lot too. I don't want to be a downer, but if I'm not in the best of moods, there's nothing worse than trying to force a smile. I also hate when people start to treat you like a baby to get you into a happier mood.
And not just that, I'm often asked "What's wrong?" when I'm not even upset. There was this girl I know who always used to ask me that question whenever she saw me, and it was really annoying. One of my friends told me that someone asked her if I had depression!
I don't. I rarely have a bad day, and when I'm with my friends I laugh and smile constantly. I've even been known to have laughing fits where I can't stop.
And not just that, I'm often asked "What's wrong?" when I'm not even upset. There was this girl I know who always used to ask me that question whenever she saw me, and it was really annoying. One of my friends told me that someone asked her if I had depression!
I don't. I rarely have a bad day, and when I'm with my friends I laugh and smile constantly. I've even been known to have laughing fits where I can't stop.
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WishingICould
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tempelton
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You might like this: Bill Hicks Smile - YouTube
You know, those people who say things like that (smile more!) are just well-meaning but ultimately unaware and not very thoughtful, for the most part.
You however are likely (as someone with social anxiety) to be hyper self-aware and most thoughtful indeed. And as not all thoughts are happy and joyful, not all corresponding facial expressions will be either. Be proud of being thoughtful and not-always-smiley (I know I am).
Being different is a good start!
PGT
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I was out having a coffee and something to eat when a random man walked up to me and said '' cheer up stop looking so worried''. I don't get it, why say that. He just walked out and I was left with everybody just looking at me. I couldn't relax after that so I just went home. I was feeling OK until he felt the need to stick his nose in.
ImNotMyIllness
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springk
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Look at my signature!!
i made that when i was fed up with people telling me, Why dont you smile? why are you so sad?
i m like wtf. like you said i dont have to plaster a smile on my face24/7 but i know many many people who do just that..they talk with that smile continously on their face.
Its okay to smile for a reason but to smile on nearly every talk is too much.
i made that when i was fed up with people telling me, Why dont you smile? why are you so sad?
i m like wtf. like you said i dont have to plaster a smile on my face24/7 but i know many many people who do just that..they talk with that smile continously on their face.
Its okay to smile for a reason but to smile on nearly every talk is too much.
Duzmiu
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i often have ago at people when some stranger comes up to me and tells me to cheer up or something. i rarely smile when im with people, i smile when im on my own quite a bit as im happiest when im alone and left to do my own thing.
alot of family friends tell me to smile or the more rude ones say stop looking like a miserable c**t.
i guess they think there helping by saying it but when its pointed out to you infront of random people its more of an insult then anything
alot of family friends tell me to smile or the more rude ones say stop looking like a miserable c**t.
i guess they think there helping by saying it but when its pointed out to you infront of random people its more of an insult then anything
Opaline
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I smile a lot actually, but there are times and places where I don't smile much and I'd like to be left alone. Having someone tell me to smile - ESPECIALLY a complete stranger - really irks me. They don't know what's going on in my life.
Yeah, maybe they mean well, but I don't much care for people who have good intentions but no manners. And to me, telling someone to smile denotes a lack of manners because you are essentially telling a person what the expression on his/her face should be, without knowing anything else about him/her. It's like telling someone to not wear a certain shirt or hairstyle. Nunya bidness.
Yeah, maybe they mean well, but I don't much care for people who have good intentions but no manners. And to me, telling someone to smile denotes a lack of manners because you are essentially telling a person what the expression on his/her face should be, without knowing anything else about him/her. It's like telling someone to not wear a certain shirt or hairstyle. Nunya bidness.
paperie
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I've received that comment many times in the past. I just think it's plain rude, I'd never think of saying that to someone....especially a random person. I feel like there's more pressure as a female to always be happy looking and bubbly. I remember when I was in elementary school a teacher would constantly harass me telling me to "SMILE!!" whenever he saw me. He even would send other kids to come find me on the playground and bring me to him so that he could tease me. I got pretty fed up with it and one day my 5th grade self told him to shut up and he never bothered me again
Hellhound
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Actually, everyday, when I go to the cafeteria, at the same hour, an old lady passes by with a big nonsensical smile. Not sure if she's happy or her face is stuck like that.
1BlackSheep
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Lol - good for you! :applause:I got pretty fed up with it and one day my 5th grade self told him to shut up and he never bothered me again
KiaKaha
Banned
I actually smile quite a lot. I am remarkably friendly (if I am allowed to say something like that about myself - seems like you can't talk or describe yourself anymore) that is of course when I am not feeling shy, self conscious or unhappy. It all depends on how well received I am by the people I am around.
My environment determines my mood a lot of the time - which I think it fairly natural for most of us.
My environment determines my mood a lot of the time - which I think it fairly natural for most of us.
1BlackSheep
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Me too. I'm actually quite giggly around people who I feel comfortable with.
IntheLabyrinth
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After considering this a few years ago I remember spending like a day watching people around me to see whether people smile all the time. THEY DON'T! People don't smile when they're on their on their own unless something funny happens.
Maybe it's just where I am though. I've never been told by a stranger to smile and I didn't even think of that as something that could possibly happen. (Acquaintances though, have...)
Maybe it's just where I am though. I've never been told by a stranger to smile and I didn't even think of that as something that could possibly happen. (Acquaintances though, have...)
mikebird
Banned
I was the one to rebel and frown in any photo.
I was generally happy in my youth. Things were good for me
But it was natural to do and perform anything that was beyond the usual normal 'say cheese' and beam, and I find this ridiculous and pansy that all the family rules were like this, to show the cheeks, lips 'n' teeth. I'd prefer to reveal a growling dog or hungry tiger attitude.
The general is far too bandwagon, boring, standard, et al. I always wanted to be as different as possible when young. Acting. Not displaying misery.
Throughout school I followed suit.
It was every family photo that I'd pull a ghastly frown. Like a third finger in the eyes and face and pursed lips.
To be Rowan Atkinson or Jim Carrey
The brainless stadium whooooopie scream and shout with a bare wide mouth in a TV studio to applaud, jump up 'n' down, frolicking is pathetic. I'd like to have a crossbow to hand to drop all those people, with the arrow poking out of the eye socket and the back of the skull
I'm the one with a lazer eye stare for an interviewer, as taught to wear a pin-sharp suit & tie and maintain eye contact, alongside judgement while everyone in an office has t-shirt and jeans... whoooopin'
LOLLOLLOLLOLLOL
every moment is accompanied by a burst-into-laughter, as does a chimp or orang-utan
I was generally happy in my youth. Things were good for me
But it was natural to do and perform anything that was beyond the usual normal 'say cheese' and beam, and I find this ridiculous and pansy that all the family rules were like this, to show the cheeks, lips 'n' teeth. I'd prefer to reveal a growling dog or hungry tiger attitude.
The general is far too bandwagon, boring, standard, et al. I always wanted to be as different as possible when young. Acting. Not displaying misery.
Throughout school I followed suit.
It was every family photo that I'd pull a ghastly frown. Like a third finger in the eyes and face and pursed lips.
To be Rowan Atkinson or Jim Carrey
The brainless stadium whooooopie scream and shout with a bare wide mouth in a TV studio to applaud, jump up 'n' down, frolicking is pathetic. I'd like to have a crossbow to hand to drop all those people, with the arrow poking out of the eye socket and the back of the skull
I'm the one with a lazer eye stare for an interviewer, as taught to wear a pin-sharp suit & tie and maintain eye contact, alongside judgement while everyone in an office has t-shirt and jeans... whoooopin'
LOLLOLLOLLOLLOL
every moment is accompanied by a burst-into-laughter, as does a chimp or orang-utan
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