Becomming more and more annoyed each day!!!!!...............
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It's a long, slow road. One thing that helped me was to write down what I wanted to be able to do by a certain date. I know it sounds stupid, but I did find that I pretty much stuck with it. I made sure that the things I wrote down were goals that I could realistically attain. Not like "do an interview within two weeks", but saying for example that within three months, I want to be able to walk around outside alone and feel okay. The three months after that would consist of me using the phone more often, since that's something I've always found difficult. That's how you can slowly work on it without the whole thing becoming a big ordeal, and that's important because if it's too drastic, you won't make it. All you're doing then is challenging yourself by taking small, manageable leaps at a time, which anyone can do. I've come pretty far this way myself, and I can now see the road to being a complete person. I struggle with things still, but I'm getting there. I feel like I might be fully alright within two years or so. That's my aim, in any case.
leneylea
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Hey I know just how you feel. Im ANGRY at this crap. My husband invited some friends over for dinner the other night and I was stressed out for days before and after the dreaded situation was over I was left felling so pissed off. I couldnt think of anything good to say and I was so uncomfortable.I thought it would help to confront the situation but it hasn't. I wonder if i should of just cancelled, but then i would have been mad at myself for doing that. I even got angry at my husband because im jealous that socialising is so easy for him.
Waybuloo
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leneylea said:
Good on you for not cancelling it. When avoidance happens that's when ur sa has won over u. I get jealous that my better half has more friends than i do and is a supportive figure for many people (even when he has SA). This feeling has made me see things black and white, that he is the socialised type and i am not, therefore i am not good enough for him and we don't mesh. But i don't anymore and i'm trying to make myself accept it as it is, and that i am still good enough even if less socially capable.
aldebe
Well-known member
This is horrible desease.. Look at these people (including me) What are they talking about.. One thinks how to talk with her husbands friends, another writtes down on paper to go out freely..
OH MY GOD.. OH MY DEAR GOD... WHAT DID WE DO? ARE WE DISABLE? IS THIS PUNNISH?
Why this guy has to practise on the paper? Why she has to argue with her husband?
WHAT IS IT???????
OH MY GOD.. OH MY DEAR GOD... WHAT DID WE DO? ARE WE DISABLE? IS THIS PUNNISH?
Why this guy has to practise on the paper? Why she has to argue with her husband?
WHAT IS IT???????
yeah, aldebe...it is horrible...but, i guess it's just our thing to deal with...we didn't do anything...it is not punishment...but yeah, it feels like a disability sometimes..and i guess we all just do what we feel is necessary to try to deal with the symptoms we have....and coming on here to share our struggles and problems is part of that..you are welcome to do that too :wink:aldebe said: