ridicule
Well-known member
I guess this is more of one of those bloggy things than any kind of real dialogue, but I think it's something you all should know specifically.
We all want some positive interaction and some bonding with cool people. I say cool people because there are plenty of ill reputes who would listen to you and interact with you...... but not in the way you would want. I'm talking about the real people who earnestly care and are interesting and open, having things to say, that sort of thing. We want to hook those people, make them interested in us, find us as interesting as we find them, if for nothing more than human interaction we ultimately need. The thing to remember is the only people who have the potential to side with you and be with you against all odds are family. For the record, I'm not a family person at all, they just happen to share my genes, but without effort, they will stick by you, in more cases than complete strangers or even non-related friends. The thing to do is make yourself a more valuable commodity. And it's quite sick that we can't just be real with one another, that it sometimes must come down to this, but this is just the way we, as humans, are and we must deal with that.
The thing you have to do is to appeal to your audience, your people, the people who you want to like you. I'm not saying don't be yourself, but for these people held in such high regard (or even if you want to appeal to a certain type of person), you have to make that effort to make yourself interesting to them. Unless you're incredibly charming or attractive, you will need substance in what you say, on whatever interests the other person. I could throw out examples, but they would be far too broad and general to even resonate with most of you.
The #1 problem I see of lonely people is that they don't try hard enough, myself including. There are many times I want to interact with a specific person, but I don't know what to say and I don't want to bore them..... it becomes quite frustrating. Overall, if you want to get past the "hi"s and "how are you"s, you have to learn to appeal to that person and not hope that everything will be done for you.
I hope everyone gets my message, because if you do, you will make friends a lot easier with those you hold in high regard.
We all want some positive interaction and some bonding with cool people. I say cool people because there are plenty of ill reputes who would listen to you and interact with you...... but not in the way you would want. I'm talking about the real people who earnestly care and are interesting and open, having things to say, that sort of thing. We want to hook those people, make them interested in us, find us as interesting as we find them, if for nothing more than human interaction we ultimately need. The thing to remember is the only people who have the potential to side with you and be with you against all odds are family. For the record, I'm not a family person at all, they just happen to share my genes, but without effort, they will stick by you, in more cases than complete strangers or even non-related friends. The thing to do is make yourself a more valuable commodity. And it's quite sick that we can't just be real with one another, that it sometimes must come down to this, but this is just the way we, as humans, are and we must deal with that.
The thing you have to do is to appeal to your audience, your people, the people who you want to like you. I'm not saying don't be yourself, but for these people held in such high regard (or even if you want to appeal to a certain type of person), you have to make that effort to make yourself interesting to them. Unless you're incredibly charming or attractive, you will need substance in what you say, on whatever interests the other person. I could throw out examples, but they would be far too broad and general to even resonate with most of you.
The #1 problem I see of lonely people is that they don't try hard enough, myself including. There are many times I want to interact with a specific person, but I don't know what to say and I don't want to bore them..... it becomes quite frustrating. Overall, if you want to get past the "hi"s and "how are you"s, you have to learn to appeal to that person and not hope that everything will be done for you.
I hope everyone gets my message, because if you do, you will make friends a lot easier with those you hold in high regard.
