Awkward relationship problem.

[Helmaninquiel]

Ok so I sorta like this guy... I think.. lol
There is this guy who has been in my life for a very, very long time. Me and him dated when we were like sixteen and now I'm twenty one but because I've been suffering with social phobia and other things for so long me and him could never connect. He kept coming over to my house cause he is friends with my cousin who lives with me and my mom but he kept trying to talk with me and be with me but every time he came over I would just go to my room and ignore him and this went on for years. But recently I've been getting a little better and gave it a try so we would talk on msn and he would come over and stuff but we still couldn't connect right, so cause of this he kinda got pissed at me and became a ******* cause I kinda dumped him and I knew that it wasn't right.. anyways he still comes over and stuff to hangout with my cousin but you can still see he want to still talk to me like he thinks I'll magically get better or something but for the last little while I haven't been sure of my feelings cause I've been thinking about him a lot and I just can't seem to get him out of my head and it sucks. I just don't know if I like him, or if it's just something I can't have.. I just don't know. What do you think?

 

[Aussie_Lad]

It can be that two people like each other but for whatever reason they can't manage a deep connection with each other. This being the case, all I can suggest is that you are not ready for each other just yet. Maybe you will be in the future, but right now there are problems, and until they can be overcome then you might just have to let things be for a while.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

It sounds like the timing isn't right.
Either that or it may just be infatuation... but I'm not any expert.
Maybe you should try talking to him more- about your SA and your problems and if he understands and can accept all of that, perhaps he could help you reach out a bit and work on yourself- THEN maybe you could try some sort of relationship further than friends?

I really think it's better to work on yourself before going deeper with your feelings for a person, though. Depending on someone completely for everything isn't healthy. <and that is coming from personal experience.
Please take what I say with a grain of salt, though~
You should do whatever you think you are able and willing to do- and what will make you happy.