Iseesky
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I have two good friends. One is like me...She has social anxiety. However, she has it much much worse than I do. At one point mine was quite bad, but I worked on it. Sites like these have helped me sooo much. I've grown and I'm no longer as anxious as I once was. My friend doesn't attempt to help herself, though. And it upsets me because I feel like she's letting me down. We talk about our anxiety sometimes and certain things we fear. But, she doesn't admit that she has a problem like I do. I know that she does.
I know that it's not my duty to push her out of her shell and make her change. I feel selfish in that I want her to change for me. I want her to be comfortable enough to go out with me because having her there makes ME more comfortable. I feel dependent on her in a weird way. I have other friends, but when I go out with them, I just wish she was with me. It's easy to talk to her. But, she doesn't like going out. She doesn't enjoy going out and I resent that. I confronted her about it and she admitted that she has a problem...She told me that when she goes out she just wishes she were back home. She said that the only times she feels comfortable going out is when she's drinking. I tell her she should get help and she agrees but never does.
Basically, she acts as my human security blanket. I have no anxiety when she's with me and thus, I want her around all the time. And that's very selfish of me, I know...
Does anyone else feel like that? Feel comfortable around a single person, but that person isn't always there for you?
I know that it's not my duty to push her out of her shell and make her change. I feel selfish in that I want her to change for me. I want her to be comfortable enough to go out with me because having her there makes ME more comfortable. I feel dependent on her in a weird way. I have other friends, but when I go out with them, I just wish she was with me. It's easy to talk to her. But, she doesn't like going out. She doesn't enjoy going out and I resent that. I confronted her about it and she admitted that she has a problem...She told me that when she goes out she just wishes she were back home. She said that the only times she feels comfortable going out is when she's drinking. I tell her she should get help and she agrees but never does.
Basically, she acts as my human security blanket. I have no anxiety when she's with me and thus, I want her around all the time. And that's very selfish of me, I know...
Does anyone else feel like that? Feel comfortable around a single person, but that person isn't always there for you?