Anyone in the UK?

[spacecadetglowuk]

Sales techniques:
1. greet customer (a simple hi)
2. be aware of customer (are they old, young, rich or poor...or a security risk :lol: )
3. Always make eye contact and smile( I find this the hardest )
4. Ask 'open' questions, these are questions you cannot answer 'yes' or 'no' to, they usually begin with the W's i.e. why? where? what? who? when?... I always went for the have you come far today....'yes'....where is that then (open question)...err yorkshire....ah Ive been to York, whereabouts in yorkshire..etc.etc.
5 be clean and non smelly (who wants to speak to you if your breath smells of dog poo and you have pits that have not seen clean water for a week ).
6 Manners maketh man (dont pick your nose whilst talking to someone or scratch your bum), SA people tend to fidget, I know I do, so keep still, if possible.
7. Ask questions (look for something relevant to talk about, if you go back to 2. be aware, you can tell the kind of person you are talking to and come up with relevant questions), be nosey, you would be suprised how much people like to talk about themselves.
8. listen to answers (dont get overconfident and start interupting or changing the subject, base more questions on the answers given by the person).

Ok I think that covers the basics, these are sales techniques guys and gals so dont take them litrally as a guide for SA, I just found them to help with my confidence with conversations.

Any questions?

 

[spacecadetglowuk]

Hi Frozen in Time

Im afraid I may have blundered a bit
I didnt think to look at your profile, but having done so, I have discovered that you are female(which is fine, not a problem)pretty young(im 50, so anyone under 40 is young and you were born in 1988, I am old enough to be your grandfather )
and what else, yes, I live in Stockport which is far to close to where you live
No one will believe that mine was an innocent post
Im sorry for the above mad speel, but I got really worried when I saw your profile that people would think I was chasing you, so I thought I would explain my mistake. It was probably not a good idea suggesting chatting online

Anthony

I tell you Antony, there are alot of weirdo's and predatory people out there on the internet, I am always vigilant for that kind of person, especially on forums like this one , where people can be construed as vulnerable. Good to hear your honesty and that you dont want to see your offers of help as 'letching'
good for you sir

 

[Anonymous]

Hello,

I am profoundly deaf, i was very shy, since most of my life. Until, i went to the university, when i am in among the deaf crowd. I learnt the conversation protocol. What i meant by this, i learnt how to start, and end the conversation, and adding my comment to the group's suggestions and cheep talks. Also learnt how to make interesting conversations by encouraging to talk more about themselves. It was great.

I realised why i was shy because i have lack of knowledge on what the correct way to talk uselessly to people. I have had so many embarrassment due to my socially inexperience. So with drinks, it helps more.

Recently, i moved out university because the time has to move on, so i got a new job, a work in supermarket. I am lone deaf among hearing groups. Many of them have never met before, therefore most do not know how to talk to a deaf person.

The bad thing about iti is i lose my conversational skills with hearings people simlpy because i cant bloody hear or not know what's going on. So i end up like a computer fucking "protocol" like TCP/IP (so
formal) between computers.

I have failed to find out what interest each individuals so i can talk rubbish in accordance to particular individuals' interests.

And over the time, i run out of ideas, by lacking of access to the latest imformation e.g. stupid gossips, cheap talks. (That motivates people to talk uselessly me, believe me i ve done that all the time)
:evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:
Fuck fucking hell, i dont understand you lots. I am fucking deaf, you are lucky you got ears, mean you have luxurous access to the group's pool of information. E.g. everdropping.

So am i classed as a social phobia individual?

 

[spacecadetglowuk]

Hi guest are you Deafbeat? I think I may have talked to you yesterday on the SAUK chatroom, dont feel alone m8 you always have somewhere to come and talk with those who understand.

RemusSA

 

[tillybud]

Hi everyone

Hi all, I've spent a couple of days just loitering around this forum, not quite sure of whether this is where i belong but just reading some of the posts here has made me feel a whole lot better already. Hopefully in time i will feel i can contribute in discussions, with experiences and maybe even find some answers. I credit you all with your honest open approach and thank you also.

Tilly

 

[Frozen_In_Time]

A warm welcome to you Tillybud. Good luck with everything.

All the best,
Frozen_In_Time

 

[Anonymous]

I'm new here

Hi F I t

i'm new here

I hope you are well and have found friends since you posted

i find it hard to talk to people

I live in NW england

If you want to talk you can im new to this

take care

steven

 

[Remus]

OOOO I'm from NW england too madfrank, drop me a line dude.

I'm also organising a very big SAUK meet in manchester if your interested

 

[Fredscars]

Thank you to everyone who have posted here, and welcome to all the newbies! (Sorry, I just like to welcome people, pity no one was there to welcome me, oh well).

It seems like most younger people are more outgoing than I am, (I'm 15) and I hate having to sit in the middle of conversations and they don't include me...I mean, don't sit next to me if you're not going to talk to me. It seems like outgoing people are afraid of being alone, whereas I don't care if I'm seen alone, what difference would it make to me anyway? I'm alone everywhere I go, even with people. Some people may think it's self-inflicted, I suppose in some ways it's true. It's probably true that I CAN talk, but it's all in my mind that I can't talk. It's like every time I have to talk I freeze up (hence my user name!) I get all hot and cold, and I can't talk. Is it all in my mind?

It also seems that I cannot be helped, no matter what I do. Among this, I also feel "down" quite a lot, sometimes for no reason. Is it just teenage mood swings?

What is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy?

Thanks for reading.

Frozen_In_Time

heya i'm 15, female and english. im not too bad off as i have several friends and a long term boyfriend buti suffer from traumatic panic attacks and find myself unable to socialise further without extreme stress and repercutions. im building up my courage slowly but surely to ask my parents to take me to a doctor to seek treatment.
personally i am also setting myself small targets each day, especially concerning socialising with my bfs mates. im finding this to help me alot.

i suggest two things
1) do your best to find some kind of help, its not easy..but try
2) set yourslef small, quite easy to reach targets. Is there someone out there you really want to know? create yourself a stepping stone..or the way i see it, my life is a paint by numbers. i have afew of the colours and im mixing and creating to find the others. wheni suceed ill have the picture i set out to create.

i hope thats helped
probably not..but i try


XFredX
you can always talk to me if you have msn or somehting
[email protected]

 

[dizzydolly]

Hi to you all,
Im another one from up north.
A few people have suggested seeing your doctor about sp, but I know its daft but I hate going to the docs unless Ive anything physical to show ,I always feel as though Ive been fogged off , or worse are made to feel like a fraud ,I guess its that lack of confidence thing again.