evil feline space cadet
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......grr.
Anyone else get offended when people youre not attracted to flirt with you?
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WeirdyMcGee
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I'm not attracted to anyone; so generally, yes. I feel a bit offended when people flirt with me.
Mainly because I feel like it can't be genuine-- no matter how good looking they are by social standards, if you hate yourself you have a hard time believing that someone could see something good about you.
I also think that I am extremely dense when it comes to this though... most of the time, I write off 'flirting' as just being friendly-- until someone observes that I was being flirted with and I suddenly feel let down because 'of *course* they weren't just being friendly for the sake of being friendly-- they were expecting me to reciprocate'.
And somehow that always results in me feeling offended, let down, depressed and a bit disgusted with myself.
I realize that whoever was doing the flirting didn't mean to make me upset, but it always does.
Mainly because I feel like it can't be genuine-- no matter how good looking they are by social standards, if you hate yourself you have a hard time believing that someone could see something good about you.
I also think that I am extremely dense when it comes to this though... most of the time, I write off 'flirting' as just being friendly-- until someone observes that I was being flirted with and I suddenly feel let down because 'of *course* they weren't just being friendly for the sake of being friendly-- they were expecting me to reciprocate'.
And somehow that always results in me feeling offended, let down, depressed and a bit disgusted with myself.
I realize that whoever was doing the flirting didn't mean to make me upset, but it always does.
Rembrandt Broam
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Seriously? Not anyone? Not even some hot movie star, or some guy from a band, or even that cute guy who works in your grocery store? No one?
WeirdyMcGee
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Seriously? Not anyone? Not even some hot movie star, or some guy from a band, or even that cute guy who works in your grocery store? No one?
One person- but I've been unable to feel any attraction for another person before/during or after our relationship ended.
I'm pretty much convinced that I am asexual.
My friends and parents just think it's because I'm ill and depressed.
I don't get 'crushes', I don't 'fall for' movie stars or people in bands- or attractive people on the street. There's no connection to anyone for any reason.
Rembrandt Broam
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Wow. I suppose not getting crushes could have benefits, but I think it's kind of sad that you don't feel a connection to anyone. :
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