anxiety with calling ppl by their names...

[Scrabbl]

Yep same here.. This is why I can never seem to remember people's names.

 

[timidhorse]

Me too, especially if it's for an authority figure. It's like I have no business calling them by their first name, that I just got to call them Ms. or Mr. Whatever...

 

[Anubis]

i dunno what this is, i feel like this is such a weird SA trait, but i have a problem calling people by their name unless they are already my friends. i guess it might come from being corrected by my grandparents about pronunciation of names when i was young, but i just can't do it much. i feel like this is very arbitrary sa trait, or maybe it is more than sa...

It's not arbitrary. It speaks to the core of your SA.

Quite revealing actually if you decide to go down the rabbit hole and explore it some more. I have similar problems.

 

[Dudley]

Yes! Glad to know I'm not the only one who finds it weird to call people by their names. I'm fine with talking about someone in the third person like "Oh Jake said he's coming over at 7" but if it's towards that person it just sounds weird to me.

Actually now that I think about it, I don't even call the people in my house by name. There's rarely more than two people in the house and awake at the same time (my dad and brother both work night shift so they sleep during the day).

 

[dooby-duck]

I never use peoples names, in there presence or not. It just feels wrong for some reason. If I have to say peoples names it is really uncomfortable. I also hate having to tell people my own name. It feels too personal if you know what I mean.

When non family members call me by my name that feels wrong as well. There aren't that many people know my name though, even at work.

 

[lurknomore]

I only have a problem with this in certain situations, like if I'm dealing with someone in authority or much older... I'm never sure if they would want me to call them by their first name, or Mr./Ms./Mrs.- I usually just end up saying sir or ma'am if I'm too uncomfortable making the decision one way or the other.

Probably what I'm most uncomfortable with is saying my own name... for some reason it feels and sounds strange when I have to say it, I almost feel like I'm mispronouncing it or something.

 

[WelshOne]

I feel really awkward calling people by their first names. I work with a guy called Tony, and I don't think I've ever called him by his name. If I have a question, I usually just go ahead and ask, rather than starting with "Tony, ..."

I don't have a problem referring to people by their name when I'm talking to someone else though.

 

[zlench]

Sometimes I find this true when I first meet people I feel uncomfortable by calling there name.

 

[Mikefly]

I don't like calling people by nicknames only by real names for some reason.

 

[CrazyCatLady]

I never really tied it to SA, but it makes sense. I have always felt weird calling people by their names, especially good friends. One day I did to my best friend, and she pointed out that I never do. That of course, was the first and last time I did that. I don't even say my boyfriend's name to him. I just call everyone, "Hey you" or poke them in the arm. Doesn't matter how well I know them. I also avoid calling my mom, "mom".

 

[JCS008]

I actually prefer to call people by their name. I figure when you meet someone and are introduced to them, the least you can do is give them the respect of remembering and calling them by their name. I think it also allows you to come off as more personable and respectful, not to mention friendly. I'm only OK with names, but I normally try pretty hard to remember names and address people by their name the next time I see them.