Anxiety please help!

[Insanewoman389]

I'm 18 and I never finished school or had a job and my parents always get me stuff I want or need. I can cook and take care of myself ok but most of the time my parents do it. My mom's mom died and she and my dad went up to go to the funeral, me and my sister stayed behind but she works so I'm home alone all day. Last night the night they left I think I had an anxiety attack, I started to get upset cause they weren't here and I started to shake and wanted to cry and I started to shake and feel nauseous. Now I'm terrified of not living with them and have been shaking and feeling naseous since last night. Can anybody help me? Does anybody might know what's wrong with me? Does anyone else feel like this? I've never been diagnosed with anything but I have been trying to find a shrink or whatever.

Side note: After a year or so of planning to get my GED when I went to my first class I was so nervous and by the time I got home I got really sick and never finished the course

 

[MikeyC]

Insanewoman389, welcome to SPW.

You may have had an anxiety attack. If you're terrified of not living with them, it could be a sign of separation anxiety, too. I can't really know for sure, but that's what I'm leaning towards. Looking for a therapist is a good idea as they'll be able to tell you what you suffered.

You said you've never been diagnosed with anything but you certainly do have a level of anxiety and panic, so it's best to see someone and find out. I have never been officially diagnosed, either, but sometimes you know something's amiss.

I didn't get my first job until I was 19, either, so don't worry about that.

 

[Insanewoman389]

Insanewoman389, welcome to SPW.

You may have had an anxiety attack. If you're terrified of not living with them, it could be a sign of separation anxiety, too. I can't really know for sure, but that's what I'm leaning towards. Looking for a therapist is a good idea as they'll be able to tell you what you suffered.

You said you've never been diagnosed with anything but you certainly do have a level of anxiety and panic, so it's best to see someone and find out. I have never been officially diagnosed, either, but sometimes you know something's amiss.

I didn't get my first job until I was 19, either, so don't worry about that.

Thank-you for the welcome I thought that's what it was but I don't really have anyone to talk to and I don't want to bother my mom at this time so I posted on here. Thank-you for answering I appreciate it

 

[MikeyC]

Thank-you for the welcome I thought that's what it was but I don't really have anyone to talk to and I don't want to bother my mom at this time so I posted on here. Thank-you for answering I appreciate it

No problem. With my issues, I didn't want to bother my parents about it, either, so I've only recently started going to therapy to finally rid myself of these things. That would be best for you.

You have nobody to talk to? That's upsetting. :: Well, if necessary, there's my inbox if you really need it, otherwise this thread and this site will let you express everything.

 

[Insanewoman389]

No problem. With my issues, I didn't want to bother my parents about it, either, so I've only recently started going to therapy to finally rid myself of these things. That would be best for you.

You have nobody to talk to? That's upsetting. :: Well, if necessary, there's my inbox if you really need it, otherwise this thread and this site will let you express everything.

:] I think so too its just hard to find a therapist with my(their) insurance.

I have one friend but I'm not really comfortable talking to her about it but I did kinda talk to my sister when she got home which helped.
Thanks I might :]

 

[MikeyC]

:] I think so too its just hard to find a therapist with my(their) insurance.

I have one friend but I'm not really comfortable talking to her about it but I did kinda talk to my sister when she got home which helped.
Thanks I might :]

Hmm, well, I don't know the system in America but I hope you do find one.

Talking to your sister would've helped a lot, I'm sure. That's still someone and it must've been good to get it off your chest. Are you and your sister close? If you are then that could be someone you can turn to in times of crisis.

You're most welcome.

 

[Insanewoman389]

Hmm, well, I don't know the system in America but I hope you do find one.

Talking to your sister would've helped a lot, I'm sure. That's still someone and it must've been good to get it off your chest. Are you and your sister close? If you are then that could be someone you can turn to in times of crisis.

You're most welcome.

Yea its just finding one that takes our insurance that's the problem. Where are you if you don't mind me asking?

It did help but I just feel to embarrassed to tell her I how feel but I did tell her I was upset and she let me stay in her room and watch tv. Yea I mean we're close but it's still hard for me to talk about it.

:]

 

[MyTunnel]

It is called fear of independence. And it is not uncommon.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Hey~ welcome to the forum!
I'm 23 years old and agoraphobic.
I get terrible anxiety and panic attacks on a regular basis any time I try to leave my house and it's been this way since I started highschool.
Luckily, I was able to finish.

Have you spoken with your family doctor about this?
Do you have a family doctor?
Have you ever tried medication for your anxiety?

It sounds to me like you can't get your footing, and that's hard enough to do when you're out and about on your own but you're a bit sheltered; so it'll be *really* difficult for you to get better unless you start taking risks and going out more often.
I'm just saying this from my own experience... and I'm sure you've probably thought about it before- but it's scary.
If you never try though, you'll never know if it helps.

Finding a medication for anxiety that works for you could do a world of good and give you the extra boost you need to start facing the world a little at a time.
I'm trying the same thing, myself; but it takes time.
Especially if you're not sure what it is that freaks you out so much.
Anxiety is scary on it's own and once a pattern of attacks form- you'll do whatever you can to avoid getting anxious out of fear of an attack.

 

[Insanewoman389]

Hey~ welcome to the forum!
I'm 23 years old and agoraphobic.
I get terrible anxiety and panic attacks on a regular basis any time I try to leave my house and it's been this way since I started highschool.
Luckily, I was able to finish.

Have you spoken with your family doctor about this?
Do you have a family doctor?
Have you ever tried medication for your anxiety?

It sounds to me like you can't get your footing, and that's hard enough to do when you're out and about on your own but you're a bit sheltered; so it'll be *really* difficult for you to get better unless you start taking risks and going out more often.
I'm just saying this from my own experience... and I'm sure you've probably thought about it before- but it's scary.
If you never try though, you'll never know if it helps.

Finding a medication for anxiety that works for you could do a world of good and give you the extra boost you need to start facing the world a little at a time.
I'm trying the same thing, myself; but it takes time.
Especially if you're not sure what it is that freaks you out so much.
Anxiety is scary on it's own and once a pattern of attacks form- you'll do whatever you can to avoid getting anxious out of fear of an attack.

Ty. I guess you could say I'm agoraphobic I never leave the house and when I do its with someone else. All of this started in like 7th grade and ever since then its just gotten worse. I'm glad you were able to finish :].

We asked our family doctor for a list of people I could see and we're still trying to find someone.
No but I'm going to ask when ever we find someone.

Yea I'm not so bad about going out its just I've been really upset since they left I don't think I was ready for this :/ It is scary mostly when I think about the future and having to live on my own and get a job and all that. Never try what? sorry.

I hope so I'd really like it if it did I could use the relieve, I know that probably makes me sound like a pill junkie I just need something to help.
Hopefully when I finally go see a therapist I'll be able to get something and get better. I just wish I knew how to act around others and could stand being around others and not getting so worked up about getting ready to go somewhere and worrying about having to eat or get sick cause I get sick a lot. I think that's what started my social anxiety I would always get sick if I went out and did stuff (not because I was scared just because lol) and after having that happen a lot I never wanna go anywhere that and I have terrible self esteem :/

Thanks for responding and for your help I appreciate it

 

[Blabla..]

I'm 18 and I never finished school or had a job and my parents always get me stuff I want or need. I can cook and take care of myself ok but most of the time my parents do it. My mom's mom died and she and my dad went up to go to the funeral, me and my sister stayed behind but she works so I'm home alone all day. Last night the night they left I think I had an anxiety attack, I started to get upset cause they weren't here and I started to shake and wanted to cry and I started to shake and feel nauseous. Now I'm terrified of not living with them and have been shaking and feeling naseous since last night. Can anybody help me? Does anybody might know what's wrong with me? Does anyone else feel like this? I've never been diagnosed with anything but I have been trying to find a shrink or whatever.

Side note: After a year or so of planning to get my GED when I went to my first class I was so nervous and by the time I got home I got really sick and never finished the course

hi and welcome ,

i went through some similar symptoms on multiple occasions , the feeling is unbearable , you could call it a panic attack . What really helped me is meditation , nothing fancy just focusing my attention on my breathing . It's what i do now every time it happens and it stops .

 

[Insanewoman389]

hi and welcome ,

i went through some similar symptoms on multiple occasions , the feeling is unbearable , you could call it a panic attack . What really helped me is meditation , nothing fancy just focusing my attention on my breathing . It's what i do now every time it happens and it stops .

Hi, ty :]

It is unbearable. I'm still waiting to find a therapist before I get on medicine but I hope I can find something to help cause I have tried to do things on my own but after I got really sick that day after GED class I just gave up :/

Yea I try to calm down as much as I can but I've found just having a good cry has helped me.

 

[Blabla..]

anxiety can make you feel like you are loosing it , i would have severe panic attacks , i would feel weak , cold and shaky , my mind racing , thinking i was going insane and dying , crazy existential thoughts about life and death , i went to the ER on multiple occasions for thinking i was having heart attacks. Anxiety is horrible , you have to learn how to take it under control , i feel much much better now , but im still housebound , can't stand other humans.

 

[Insanewoman389]

anxiety can make you feel like you are loosing it , i would have severe panic attacks , i would feel weak , cold and shaky , my mind racing , thinking i was going insane and dying , crazy existential thoughts about life and death , i went to the ER on multiple occasions for thinking i was having heart attacks. Anxiety is horrible , you have to learn how to take it under control , i feel much much better now , but im still housebound , can't stand other humans.

I know the feeling especially the loosing it bit and the crazy existential thoughts about life and death those are the worst for me. I think if I get help I can get better with being around people and not be so awkward and then maybe be more comfortable with not being around my parents all the time.

 

[MikeyC]

Yea its just finding one that takes our insurance that's the problem. Where are you if you don't mind me asking?

It did help but I just feel to embarrassed to tell her I how feel but I did tell her I was upset and she let me stay in her room and watch tv. Yea I mean we're close but it's still hard for me to talk about it.

:]

I didn't know insurance was involved for that. I'm in Australia. If you qualify to go on a mental health plan, you can get your sessions for free. I got a referral from a doctor and I get 6 discounted sessions.

I can understand the embarrassment of discussing it with your sister, but she does sound helpful so I would try to harness that anywhere possible.

 

[Sora]

I have a friend suffering from Anxiety, doctor put him on anti-depressants and he says they help a lot. I sometimes get very anxious and paranoid but not to the levels you're stating and I am not sure how much this will help but I have found if you force yourself to do the thing that is bothering you...you usually get over it eventually and feel better...eventually.

The problem is, doing that is the hardest thing you will ever have to do but if you can, you will fix it. At least this is how it has always being for me but as said I only get it mildly, sometimes quite bad at random times but never to the point of attacks. Talking about things really helps though so get it all out on here! and welcome to the forum

 

[Insanewoman389]

I have a friend suffering from Anxiety, doctor put him on anti-depressants and he says they help a lot. I sometimes get very anxious and paranoid but not to the levels you're stating and I am not sure how much this will help but I have found if you force yourself to do the thing that is bothering you...you usually get over it eventually and feel better...eventually.

The problem is, doing that is the hardest thing you will ever have to do but if you can, you will fix it. At least this is how it has always being for me but as said I only get it mildly, sometimes quite bad at random times but never to the point of attacks. Talking about things really helps though so get it all out on here! and welcome to the forum

Its good to hear that it's helped him, gives me hope. Yea I don't think I'm ready for that yet or I'm just unwilling :/

It does help, I finally called my mom and told her how I'm feeling and while it might be somewhat of a crutch it helped me a lot just to talk to her. I ended up breaking down pretty much and sobbing and then I slept all day, is that normal? (This question is for anyone) :]

 

[MikeyC]

I finally called my mom and told her how I'm feeling and while it might be somewhat of a crutch it helped me a lot just to talk to her. I ended up breaking down pretty much and sobbing and then I slept all day, is that normal? (This question is for anyone) :]

I think the pressure of calling your mum took its toll on you emotionally and once that was over, your emotions spilled out and exhausted you. It's probably normal, but not if it continues happening.

 

[Insanewoman389]

I think the pressure of calling your mum took its toll on you emotionally and once that was over, your emotions spilled out and exhausted you. It's probably normal, but not if it continues happening.

Oh I figured, I just wanted to know lol. Yea but I am feeling a little better had hard time sleeping last night but I did sleep and I really do feel a little better

 

[MikeyC]

Oh I figured, I just wanted to know lol. Yea but I am feeling a little better had hard time sleeping last night but I did sleep and I really do feel a little better

Good to hear.