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Nathália

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Hello Billfish.

Congrats on being sober.
Yes, social anxiety can debilitate people.
I wish you good luck in your future.
Welcome to SocialPhobiaWorld :)
 
MarionBerry

MarionBerry

Well-known member
billfish said:
Even though it's extremely hard to accept compliments or praise, I appreciate you both.

I guess that's another 'problem', is not being good enough. No matter how many times I'm told that I'm handsome, smart, funny.... I always have a hard time believing it. Usually I'll just question the true motives behind the person's comment. Paranoid I guess.
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I know how you feel about the questioning the motives behind compliments. What I eventually realized is that when you dismiss someone's compliment you dismiss their opinion and that was never my intent. So now what I do is say, "Thank you, you're sweet/kind/thoughtful." This positively acknowledges their compliments, validating the person and after you say it a few times you start believing they might be right.
 
billfish

billfish

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Being accepted, getting recognition, and having some attention is probably one of the most difficult things in life, for me at least. Just browsing/viewing how people interact with their 'friends' on SPW, it's hard to see where a new person will fit in. Reminds me of other forums where people will instantly judge you based on your Post Count. (maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to remove it).
 
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billfish

billfish

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It's really just about my assumptions....

I think someone will see that I joined a day ago and think. "what does he have to contribute."

Whereas someone who's been on this site for YEARS, and people KNOW, will generally be heard above others.

I feel like I may not be making sense, and even I don't know what point I'm trying to make. Just carry on, and maybe delete this? bah
 
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