JJB
Active member
Hello,
I need some advice, I suffer from anger attacks often caused out of frustration or when I've had a few days feeling super low. Trouble is I struggle to control them, I'm sure it's a reasonably common thing but they are absolutely awful to go through and I'm sick of them. I hide them from family and friends who I don't think really know about them (though they recognized my low moods). But my techniques of coping with them isn't working and I need some better methods.
Had them for years, first was when I was 11 after a dark spell suffering with severe chronic pain and such. Anyone who as them will know how terrible they can be, they usually result in me screaming as quietly as I can a specific swear word, digging my finger nails into my skin and beating myself around the head or even slapping myself. I don't know the technical traits of anger attacks but whatever it is, I hate it. It's like you have this thing in your chest you just want to rip out, but after an attack as calmed I'm totally drained. I need to better cope with them, one of my only current techniques was taunt to me by a friend, I basically tie a piece of string around the palm of my hand tightly and squeeze. Though having recently had finger and hand problems (I suffer with RA) this isn't going to be good for me. So I'd appreciate any advice, keep in mind acting calm doesn't work. If I sit and try to relax the anger builds up. It seems to be all about releasing it, but how best? I have seen a psychotherapist early last year after I had a sort of strange breakdown but I never really talked about the anger attacks.
Would appreciate the help. Thank you all.
I need some advice, I suffer from anger attacks often caused out of frustration or when I've had a few days feeling super low. Trouble is I struggle to control them, I'm sure it's a reasonably common thing but they are absolutely awful to go through and I'm sick of them. I hide them from family and friends who I don't think really know about them (though they recognized my low moods). But my techniques of coping with them isn't working and I need some better methods.
Had them for years, first was when I was 11 after a dark spell suffering with severe chronic pain and such. Anyone who as them will know how terrible they can be, they usually result in me screaming as quietly as I can a specific swear word, digging my finger nails into my skin and beating myself around the head or even slapping myself. I don't know the technical traits of anger attacks but whatever it is, I hate it. It's like you have this thing in your chest you just want to rip out, but after an attack as calmed I'm totally drained. I need to better cope with them, one of my only current techniques was taunt to me by a friend, I basically tie a piece of string around the palm of my hand tightly and squeeze. Though having recently had finger and hand problems (I suffer with RA) this isn't going to be good for me. So I'd appreciate any advice, keep in mind acting calm doesn't work. If I sit and try to relax the anger builds up. It seems to be all about releasing it, but how best? I have seen a psychotherapist early last year after I had a sort of strange breakdown but I never really talked about the anger attacks.
Would appreciate the help. Thank you all.