CygnusRift
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So there's this girl who I used to be best friends with long ago, in middle school. I upset her with my self-harm so much that she stopped talking to me, but we're just now starting to talk again as I finally brought up the guts to talk to her. Problem is, I have no idea how to go about it. I almost feel like I'm starting off from scratch, and neither of us are big on small talk and I fear scaring her off now, even though we're both graduated from high school and she's probably not so sensitive and easily upset like that now. So, how do I strike up a conversation with her? What should I try talking about with her? I'm worried that everything I do and say to her will come off as annoying. I just want to make a connection with her and be able to interact with her without being boring or annoying and I simply have no idea on how to talk to someone.
Note: When I ask for what to talk about with her, I don't mean super specifics. I mean, do I go into talking about our lives, interests, etc. or what, and how to keep it interesting and not causing it to flop, seem rude, or inadvertently make it all about me. Also, how do you tell someone that you want to hang out and do things together without coming off as needy and clingy?
Sorry if this post is kind of disorganized and everything is everywhere. I'm beyond sleepy, stressed, dealing with additional mental problems, and pretty much reaching the point of a total mental breakdown, and it's making it hard for me to even type coherently. But, it was either post this or just cry and feel helpless about my situation. I hope this post makes sense. Any and all advice is appreciated. Chances are, anyone here probably has a far better idea of how to go about it than I do.
Note: When I ask for what to talk about with her, I don't mean super specifics. I mean, do I go into talking about our lives, interests, etc. or what, and how to keep it interesting and not causing it to flop, seem rude, or inadvertently make it all about me. Also, how do you tell someone that you want to hang out and do things together without coming off as needy and clingy?
Sorry if this post is kind of disorganized and everything is everywhere. I'm beyond sleepy, stressed, dealing with additional mental problems, and pretty much reaching the point of a total mental breakdown, and it's making it hard for me to even type coherently. But, it was either post this or just cry and feel helpless about my situation. I hope this post makes sense. Any and all advice is appreciated. Chances are, anyone here probably has a far better idea of how to go about it than I do.
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