Am I the only one who has this problem (if it's even considered that)

[Forgotten-Children]

Well, I can't cry to movies like to some of the saddest scenes such as Mufasa's death in the Lion King. I mean... I feel sad about it but If you looked at me while I was watching the movie, I wouldn't change any facial expression.

I don't even flinch whenever I'm watching something like Elfen Lied where there are limbs, blood, and guts flying through the air. I mean... I can actually eat while watching the anime without having any feeling of losing my lunch. :/

I only say this is a problem for me because my boyfriend says that it was one of the reasons I couldn't find any friends because I act like I don't care about anything (even though I do).

I'm just kinda wondering why I'm like this. It's not like I can't cry because I can cry at the drop of a hat whenever worried about something. I mean, I think it's because subconciously I know that it's entertainment rather than a real life experience.

You guys have any ideas or share the same issue?

 

[Inspiration]

Life have make me emotionless. I wish, i can slowly change it.

 

[Confuseddd]

yeah if people are around you mean? i am too preoccupied with what there thinking about me and how i am reacting to the movie. i CAN NOT sing songs like when me and friends are listening to what we enjoy and they start to sing i cant join in. sometimes i think they sing just to try and get me to sing with them but it is so much pressure it feels like ugh idk even why it is difficult it just makes me feel awkward. i feel like i let them down when i fail

 

[Forgotten-Children]

yeah if people are around you mean? i am too preoccupied with what there thinking about me and how i am reacting to the movie. i CAN NOT sing songs like when me and friends are listening to what we enjoy and they start to sing i cant join in. sometimes i think they sing just to try and get me to sing with them but it is so much pressure it feels like ugh idk even why it is difficult it just makes me feel awkward. i feel like i let them down when i fail

Pretty much yeah. My mom is the main cause of all my stress because she gets on my tail all the time to try and get a job and whenever I do she says I'm not trying hard enough which is stupid since I give what I can knowing I have Asperger Syndrome. >->;

I can sing the songs in movies, that's not the issue. It's just I can't cry to the sad scenes in movies. With the comical scenes though, I may give a scarcastic scoff laugh (which would probably the only response you would ever get out of me in a film unless it has a song in it because I would break out into song as soon as it starts up. Mainly with the Disney films because I watched them a million times over so I know the words by heart.) And no, I don't think that since I watched the movies so many times that the scene lost it's meaning because I don't remember AT ALL crying as a kid to these movies.

 

[Confuseddd]

my mom didnt know i had it until recently.My friends were the only ones that really knew. i know sad right? i didnt have much of a family. Also to be honest movies i dont have too much of a problem with as long as im not sitting like in any ones line of site lol. cuz i just think that there watching the movie just like me. songs though... they are the worst to sing around friends. i have thought i might be autistic before. how do you tell?...

 

[Forgotten-Children]

my mom didnt know i had it until recently.My friends were the only ones that really knew. i know sad right? i didnt have much of a family. Also to be honest movies i dont have too much of a problem with as long as im not sitting like in any ones line of site lol. cuz i just think that there watching the movie just like me. songs though... they are the worst to sing around friends. i have thought i might be autistic before. how do you tell?...

Well I'm not entirely sure how doctors can tell if it's actually Autism or Asperger Syndrome (apples and oranges really)

The only reason why I know I have it or (if diagnosed wrong) something EXTREMELY close to it are because of these things.

- I tend to avoid as much human contact as possible
- I'm quiet
- I have to do things repeatedly inorder to stay focused. Example would be tapping my leg when sitting down or pacing to music while I'm able to walk around. If I stop moving around my mind will seriously go blank for about 3 seconds until I "wake back up" into conciousness, if that makes any sense. I guess you can call it an empty La La Land.
- I'm very obsessive over artwork, videogames (namely Pokemon), and cartoons/anime (It's very rare for me to be interested in something that's live action) Added to this, whatever I'm obsessing over, I tend to know a lot about (not trying to brag, that's just how autism works)

 

[Confuseddd]

wow.. i have alot of "interests" that i would say i focus on alot and try to learn about that you might be able to say is obsession? like mma was one at a time and psychology and philosophy another. and when i like something i tend to try and relate how i feel about it to other people overly i would say. I have moments where i go blank like almost a day dream but no dream mostly only at work though.. and i also avoid talking but not with everyone only with people that i might deem anxiety causing for whatever reason ehhe. idk i thought i had this syndrome on and off but then again i thought that something has always been wrong with me, just that feeling. Something is wrong with me. i feel like its more shame though i think

 

[Forgotten-Children]

wow.. i have alot of "interests" that i would say i focus on alot and try to learn about that you might be able to say is obsession? like mma was one at a time and psychology and philosophy another. and when i like something i tend to try and relate how i feel about it to other people overly i would say. I have moments where i go blank like almost a day dream but no dream mostly only at work though.. and i also avoid talking but not with everyone only with people that i might deem anxiety causing for whatever reason ehhe. idk i thought i had this syndrome on and off but then again i thought that something has always been wrong with me, just that feeling. Something is wrong with me. i feel like its more shame though i think

I won't say there's anything wrong with you, it just makes you what you are. If all humans were "normal", we wouldn't be human. (Man I suck at pep talks...)

 

[Confuseddd]

I won't say there's anything wrong with you, it just makes you what you are. If all humans were "normal", we wouldn't be human. (Man I suck at pep talks...)

i tell myself that every day. that theres nothing wrong with me. i usually get myself happy and believing that for awhile. I have thought i was a manic depressive, and many other things too :/

 

[Kinetik]

I think it's more to do with conditioning, and the fact that there's just too much stimuli in the world these days. We grow up with blood, guts and nudity everywhere - how are we supposed to be shocked by anything anymore? Everything loses its potency when you live in a society like ours. Plus things like movies just suck nowadays. They don't have the same chill factor as some older stuff that was made many years ago. You're way more normal than you think.

 

[Forgotten-Children]

I think it's more to do with conditioning, and the fact that there's just too much stimuli in the world these days. We grow up with blood, guts and nudity everywhere - how are we supposed to be shocked by anything anymore? Everything loses its potency when you live in a society like ours. Plus things like movies just suck nowadays. They don't have the same chill factor as some older stuff that was made many years ago. You're way more normal than you think.

I suppose so but even as a kid, I wasn't effected during the first time seeing Disney deaths. I mean... Maybe with newer movies because my dad introduced me to Turok 2 for the PC when I was 8. (which is probably the only rated M game I've ever actually played.)

 

[BlackPuma]

Same here.. I'm just used to emotionally extreme situations. Even when I am capable of feeling the appropriate emotions, there's nothing going on, on the outside.

The only real sadness I feel is when I think back to when I was younger (and lived a happy life). Because I remember, and momentarily feel that happiness again. But then my current feelings rush back, and it feels like a punch in the face.

It just emphasizes how bad things have become. :/ Though, I'm glad to be able to remember how I felt. It gives me a focal point to work forward to. Sort of like an emotional map. :3