lonewolf31
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stand up for yourself and fight back. As hard as it will be it's the only proper way to deal with it or you'll never respect yourself years later. I know because I'm 33 years old and still regret not standing up for myself as a 14 yr old kid being picked on by other kids. Lately for some reason it's really been eating at me everyday. Events that took place nearly 20 years ago still haunt me. I even had a dream recently where I was humiliated (it was very realistic). I wish I can go back in time and give those two bullies what they deserved but I can't. And doing it now probably wouldn't do me any good either. But my life may be alot different now if I'd of stood up for myself back then and didn't retreat to my own little world and hide because of fear. I wound up taking my frustrations out on other kids, picking and choosing my battles. One kid beat me up when I was in 9th grade and another kid spread a false rumour about me that quckly spread around the school and around the town where I lived, amoung kids my age of course. My freshman year was nothing less than a nightmare. My so called best friend turned his back on me and basically took the side of the bullies. The next year he wanted to friends again but I told him to **** off. I think he wound up a herion addic in his adult life so I heard. But anyway, I had not a friend in the school. It was very traumatic for me I remember. I rode out the year at that school and wound up transfering to another one. But not after my reputation and self respect were taken away. After that I had a pretty normal high school experience in the new school. Many of my friends that I went to grade school with went there and it was an easy intergration. I was actually a pretty popular kid there (as i was before i went into 9th grade). I played sports in high school as well and was a decent athlete. Never took any crap from anyone since that year because I realized my mistake was how I reacted to the bullying. Weakness fuels the bully(s) fire. I beleive that the anxiety that started when I was 18, was caused by what I went through at 14 and is the cause of what developed into social anxiety as an adult. It's something that all could have been avoided , I beleive by facing my tormentors, not running from them. just my 2 cents