A Day Late, A Dollar Short

[ImNotMyIllness]

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[Earthcircle]

Now I'm in the 35-40 age bracket and I'm starting all over, living at home, taking classes and trying to enter a new career field.
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I'm 48, and I fit this description. I'm too depressed to be scared. I don't bother taking classes, but I am trying a new career. I am bound to fail. This just won't work. I have no options, and have failed at everything.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

I'm 48, and I fit this description. I'm too depressed to be scared. I don't bother taking classes, but I am trying a new career. I am bound to fail. This just won't work. I have no options, and have failed at everything.

As depressed as I feel, I am giving it my best shot (despite being extremely tired all the time). I'm eating better, exercising, working on my mental health........Really trying to improve myself.

But to be honest, more than anything, I just feel like throwing in the towel.

Life passed me by and I missed it.......................

 

[cowboyup]

I'm sorry to hear you feel like this, and I don't mean to sound condescending -- I truly am because I am in very similar boat and feel just like you do. There are times when I think to myself, why am I even trying? Esp. at this age. But I have to keep thinking things will get better I have to just hang in there a little longer....

a day late, dollar short - wow, that statement hits home!

(insert words of wisdom here)

:question:

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

I swear to god, practically every commercial that I see on TV is for people between the ages of 50-80.....WTF!!! That's what I have to wait for?! I sucked at life while young, I'm sure I'll suck at life even more when I get older. Mental problems are bad enough, getting older entails physical ones too.

Sorry............I'm making myself (and probably) everyone else feel like crap.

 

[cowboyup]

I swear to god, practically every commercial that I see on TV is for people between the ages of 50-80.....WTF!!! That's what I have to wait for?! I sucked at life while young, I'm sure I'll suck at life even more when I get older. Mental problems are bad enough, getting older entails physical ones too.

Sorry............I'm making myself (and probably) everyone else feel like crap.

oh my gosh, I know, right? people talking about retirement, those little blue pills, I even got an invitation to AARP! I was thinking, wtf?

No worries - you're fine

 

[gazelle]

I recommend you to see the film Séraphine based on the true life of the painter,while it doesn't have a happy ending, it's also very inspirational. She started painting at the age of 40 and eventually became a famous painter.

 

[MikeyC]

It just seems that every phase of life that I enter (teens, 20+ etc), I'm always trailing behind (women, finances, career.....). What everyone achieves at X year, I achieve 10+ years after that! (if I even achieve it)

Now I'm in the 35-40 age bracket and I'm starting all over, living at home, taking classes and trying to enter a new career field.

There are no set rules, guidelines, or deadlines for life. The media and movies and whatnot want you to believe that if you haven't gotten a degree, gotten married, bought a house, had a kid, learnt 5 languages, solved pi, and taken a shaky photo of Bigfoot, then you're a loser and you've achieved nothing.

That is such a load of crap!

People go to university in their 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, and even beyond. Why? Well, they want to change. They're sick of the life they've got and they want something different. People get divorced years (or, if you're Britney Spears, hours) after marriage. Why? They want to change.

It doesn't matter how long it takes you to do things, or how it is you've come to the decision. Just because you're in your late 30's doesn't mean that you have to give up.

I'm 26 now and still a virgin with no university education or qualifications or skills of any kind...and that's okay! :thumbup: I will get there eventually. You and I have had our setbacks, but we will get there!

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Sometimes I feel like doing something really drastic and crazy just to change things up. Of course, I am too afraid. Though, as I grow older and more desperate, it really does start to feel like I have nothing to lose so why not give it a go.

Growing older does stir all these feelings of regret. I have a birthday coming up soon. I didn't think it was going make me feel this way, after all it is just a number, but the feelings that are coming up are so strange. I do not like it. I don't even have my driver's license. LOL. I am so far behind!

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

Sometimes I feel like doing something really drastic and crazy just to change things up. Of course, I am too afraid. Though, as I grow older and more desperate, it really does start to feel like I have nothing to lose so why not give it a go.

Growing older does stir all these feelings of regret. I have a birthday coming up soon. I didn't think it was going make me feel this way, after all it is just a number, but the feelings that are coming up are so strange. I do not like it. I don't even have my driver's license. LOL. I am so far behind!

I've always hated my birthday (well since I turned 19). I feel like doing something crazy and drastic too......but what? That's the problem.

I can't continue going on like this.............................

 

[thegunners21]

I'm 26 now and still a virgin with no university education or qualifications or skills of any kind...and that's okay! :thumbup: I will get there eventually. You and I have had our setbacks, but we will get there!

You're kidding me. I presumed girls would be throwing themselves at you.

 

[MikeyC]

You're kidding me. I presumed girls would be throwing themselves at you.

Ha, no, that's not quite the case, but thank you. :bigsmile:

My sexual anxiety plays its own role, too. If it didn't, I'd be sleeping with two different women a night!! (Okay, maybe not, but in my mind, it's already happening...!)

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

I've always hated my birthday (well since I turned 19). I feel like doing something crazy and drastic too......but what? That's the problem.

I can't continue going on like this.............................

Last year I actually enjoyed my birthday. But there was much more to look forward to then. In the year since then my depression has become this big, strong beast. That changes everything.

I want new experiences...so maybe that is where the crazy, drastic things can come into play. Just taking more risks in general. Because, why not? I have nothing to lose. Yeah, I can't continue going on like this either :idontknow:

 

[thegunners21]

If it didn't, I'd be sleeping with two different women a night!! (Okay, maybe not, but in my mind, it's already happening...!)

I thought I'd be in there too

 

[A86]

There are no set rules, guidelines, or deadlines for life. The media and movies and whatnot want you to believe that if you haven't gotten a degree, gotten married, bought a house, had a kid, learnt 5 languages, solved pi, and taken a shaky photo of Bigfoot, then you're a loser and you've achieved nothing.

Personaly I think lack of any sense of achievement makes one ponder the past more and more... And the more you think about the past in this context, the more depressing it can become.

MickeyC is right, it is a load of crap, though I know its hard to just dismiss these unwritten baseline measuring points that we have subconsciously picked up to determine & compare our level of lifes progression.

I, for a long time thought all my achievements were the benefit of others (any awesomeness I did work benefited the company more than myself for example) and while this is still somewhat true, as I have aged (and become a little more selfish ) I have taken more merit in my personal goals rather than those expectations set apon us by our peers.

These self acomplishments have helped me at least somewhat by allowing me to live more in the 'now' rather than the past. Reviewing your past helps vision your future but living in the past is just detrimental.

Remember it is difficult to watch where you are driving and avoid the obstacles ahead if spend all your time looking in the review mirror at all things you have already hit.

 

[MikeyC]

I thought I'd be in there too

Wait your turn, buddy.

I, for a long time thought all my achievements were the benefit of others (any awesomeness I did work benefited the company more than myself for example) and while this is still somewhat true, as I have aged (and become a little more selfish ) I have taken more merit in my personal goals rather than those expectations set apon us by our peers.

:thumbup: Excellent! Continue on this track and you'll do great.