23 yr old female - never been in a relationship

Riiya said:
TheWall said:
Pinker said:
I don't know if women ever feel the same way about men. Probably not.

It makes me feel bad when I see an attractive guy because I know I'm not good enough.

Really? And here I thought only guys get the short end of the stick.

Yeah...I just think "oh God they think I'm disgusting." It also makes me feel down when I see pretty, confident, outgoing girls because it reminds me of what I'm not.
 

PlaceboEffect

Well-known member
I can tell you how to solve this but it's up to you if you'll follow it..

Here it goes:

1. Go to a stylist and get yourself trendy clothes
2. Get sexy haircut and makeup whatever
3. Go out to a club with your girlfriends
4. Go on dancefloor and dance with your girlfriends
5. Do this a few times and when a guy approaches you
6. Dance with him
7. Tell him to sit with you
8. Talk with him
9. He'll take your number and call you and things will progress all by themselves

So, will YOU start making your life the way you want it to be or will you let it develop in it's own direction?
 
PlaceboEffect said:
I can tell you how to solve this but it's up to you if you'll follow it..

Here it goes:

1. Go to a stylist and get yourself trendy clothes
2. Get sexy haircut and makeup whatever
3. Go out to a club with your girlfriends
4. Go on dancefloor and dance with your girlfriends
5. Do this a few times and when a guy approaches you
6. Dance with him
7. Tell him to sit with you
8. Talk with him
9. He'll take your number and call you and things will progress all by themselves

So, will YOU start making your life the way you want it to be or will you let it develop in it's own direction?

First of all what is a sexy haircut? I don't wear makeup because I feel fake when I do. I don't have "girlfriends" I have one friend and she is a year younger than me so we couldn't go to the club together if we wanted to. Going to a night club would just be a horrible experience. I've seen pictures of my peers on MySpace at the club and it is just full of jackasses and sluts. I would definitely not fit in there. I don't dance. That would send my anxiety through the roof. Soooo it's not as simple as "Follow these 9 steps and it'll happen."
 

Bianca

Well-known member
PlaceboEffect said:
I can tell you how to solve this but it's up to you if you'll follow it..

Here it goes:

1. Go to a stylist and get yourself trendy clothes
2. Get sexy haircut and makeup whatever
3. Go out to a club with your girlfriends
4. Go on dancefloor and dance with your girlfriends
5. Do this a few times and when a guy approaches you
6. Dance with him
7. Tell him to sit with you
8. Talk with him
9. He'll take your number and call you and things will progress all by themselves

So, will YOU start making your life the way you want it to be or will you let it develop in it's own direction?




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Shy_Gurl2007

Well-known member
I've been two relationships my entire life, and they have both been a huge waste of time! I might as well say I've always been single because they both used me! The guy I do like is my best friend, and we tried to date but he said it never felt right. I might as well become a lesbian also...
 

PlaceboEffect

Well-known member
Well I've been frequenting clubs for 5+ years and trust me, I'm not just being a smart ass when I say that this is a sure way of getting in a relationship.

You can't just sit at home and "wish" someone in your life.

PS: the sexy haircut pictures are hilarious :D
 

PlaceboEffect

Well-known member
Riiya said:
This begs the question: What kind of people do you want to be in a relationship with?

Honestly I can't really say that there's a specific kind of people in clubs.

The only common personality trait that they all have is that (surprise) they all like going to clubs.

Aside from that you can find intelligent, well read, extravagant, shy, arrogant, boring, confident, low-self esteem and every other kind of people there.

Trust me, I've met A LOT of people in clubs and there's no specific type of people that would frequent clubs. MAYBE they're on average a bit more confident/extrovert.

The reason why I suggest clubbing is that socialization is encouraged and there are a lot of single people there. And because there's always a lot of people in clubs you also have more choice.
 

jiujitsu

Active member
Right, you have to go to a pumpkin patch or a farmer's market or church to find one.

Then when they realize you're a freak with SA it was all a waste.

Except for the fresh produce, pumpkin pies and cleanlier soul. Maybe it is worth it. If only for the pie...
 

Argamemnon

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Pink_Glitter said:
It's so hard being chatty to a guy when all you're thinking is, i bet i look a right state! why is he looking at me like that and how the hell can i get out of here quickly!
You are very beautiful and cute! Let's marry and have 5 kids together :) Ahaha, lol... Being beautiful or handsome doesn't change anything for us though, how sad. I'm not particularly ugly either. It's a brain thing.... :twisted:
 

Argamemnon

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Ubersonic said:
If you push away every person that tries talking to you it's dumb to feel sorry for yourself.
It's not a choice Ubersonic so you can't call it stupid. When your mind goes totally blank and you're terrified, you just want to get the hell out of there... it's sad, but it is not a choice you make!!
 

Ubersonic

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Argamemnon said:
Ubersonic said:
If you push away every person that tries talking to you it's dumb to feel sorry for yourself.
It's not a choice Ubersonic so you can't call it stupid. When your mind goes totally blank and you're terrified, you just want to get the hell out of there... it's sad, but it is not a choice you make!!

I know being awkward isn't a choice...
But if some people are pushing others away on purpose, which I think some people are, they shouldn't wallow in self pity. If you can't help it, go ahead.
 

weak

Well-known member
blackhole said:
yeah but i feel like its differnt for guys..u usually have to make the move.

women dont. and i still dont have a chance

what does that say?

Could mean many things. No need to jump to the conclusion that men don't find you attractive.

Consider this... there's plenty of gorgeous woman out there who never get hit on. Why? Because men are intimidated by them and assume they'll just get rejected.

Woman go through life without ever getting hit on for all sorts of reasons really. Some woman are simply harder to approach that others, especially shy girls. Men will often mistake shyness as stuck up and unfriendly.

If you're really aiming to meet someone, you gotta be in the right social environment. Most people with SA avoid clubs and bars like the plague, but there's always dating sites.

I'm sure if you stick around on this forum long enough, you'll find yourself getting approached left and right by other members heh.
 
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