The only way i can be sociable is when i am drunk
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It does something to your brain chemically, while allowing you to be uninhibited by your thoughts or morals. Basically, it takes away the worry. Please stop, alcohol is not a good alternative for help as you can become an alcoholic if you let it. It can become just another problem on top of a problem.
I don't take drugs, I haven't even been professionally diagnosed. All I know is if it gets bad I will take herbs instead. Medications seem to be much more lethal.
Anubis
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It's true. I've just come back from a party for my sister's baby and i got drunk and i actually could talk to people and be humourous and care free, without alcohol i am uptight and not fun to be with. Why can't i be this way without alcohol!::
Simple answer. The alcohol makes you feel invulnerable ... by making you forget about your vulnerability issues.
Once you come back down to earth, you confront and identify with your masked childhood trauma of vulnerability, and you are uptight again.
Anubis
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To put it simply, it's an ego defense. It intoxicates the person so they don't have to deal with their hidden pain. As recluse said, he has a lot of insecurities. Those insecurities are his inner pain.
Lots of other ways to alleviate pain too. I don't drink alcohol, but I have an insipid tendency to fantasize about being invulnerable. In my head, I vicariously play the role of powerful people in my head (athletes, doctors, etc) OVER AND OVER again so I can tap into that sense of effortless power. I also imagine huge crowds of people clapping and praising me after the occasion. I used to do this for hours at a time (especially after feeling powerless due to an argument, etc). It's not as physically damaging as alcohol, but it can be just as psychologically damaging because it involves forgetting/disowning my vulnerability for the sake of a high. Meanwhile, my vulnerability is never actually fixed so I have to fantasize some more. It's an addictive repetitive (and shameful) cycle. I don't like to tell people about this side of me.
Lots of other ways to alleviate pain too. I don't drink alcohol, but I have an insipid tendency to fantasize about being invulnerable. In my head, I vicariously play the role of powerful people in my head (athletes, doctors, etc) OVER AND OVER again so I can tap into that sense of effortless power. I also imagine huge crowds of people clapping and praising me after the occasion. I used to do this for hours at a time (especially after feeling powerless due to an argument, etc). It's not as physically damaging as alcohol, but it can be just as psychologically damaging because it involves forgetting/disowning my vulnerability for the sake of a high. Meanwhile, my vulnerability is never actually fixed so I have to fantasize some more. It's an addictive repetitive (and shameful) cycle. I don't like to tell people about this side of me.
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this_portrait
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My dad is the same exact way. He never talks to or sees anyone hardly at all when he's sober, but the minute he gets drunk, he's social. He also won't drink at home; it has to be at a bar.
stand_up
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I'm old school manners. It's the host's job to make sure guests are welcomed and introduced to others.
In the event you have a crap host who does not do the above, it's not your fault if you feel socially awkward.. you'll just have to do the introducing yourself, stand straight, head high, look confident and smile.
In the event you have a crap host who does not do the above, it's not your fault if you feel socially awkward.. you'll just have to do the introducing yourself, stand straight, head high, look confident and smile.
recluse
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I can't get drunk at home because i end up feeling really lonely and i cry.
ForeverBlue2
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It's true. I've just come back from a party for my sister's baby and i got drunk and i actually could talk to people and be humourous and care free, without alcohol i am uptight and not fun to be with. Why can't i be this way without alcohol!:
You could always think of this another way. Most of us are always wishing that we had somewhere to go like a party, bbq or whatever. Somewhere where we get the chance to socialise and have fun. Well that's exactly what you did. Even with alcohol I don't think I would have been as carefree as you have described. Okay so the sh*tty part is that you have gone back to having all the insecurities that alot of us (including me) have about ourselves. Maybe just basque (correct spelling??) in the glory of having had a great, social time, even if it was for one night
I know it's probably not what you want to hear as what you want to be able to do is be fun and carefree all the time but maybe we can just enjoy the few bright moments in our lives, no matter how rare they are.
I say well done for having a great time and be proud of yourself for entertaining people and making them laugh. You would have made a positive effect on their night
(even if it was alcohol induced hehe)
magenheimer21
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I think an occasional drink is fine. If u start relying on it, it will become another one of your problems. Just try not to care too much about what people think about u. You are who u are and there is nothing u can do about it. I suffer from a lack of confidence, especially around guys I like.
Obstacle 1
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It is the same for me, I am much more sociable with lowered inhibitions. It also depends on the environment, usually surrounded by like minded people just wanting to have fun. I could never drink by myself, much too depressing. While it isn't ideal and a hangover isn't fun either, a little bit of euphoria from time to time is better than none I think ::
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