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  1. Flyingheart

    Does anyone strongly fear disapproval?

    I get depressed really easily and I'm pretty sure it comes from my social anxiety. Yesterday at my (new-ish) work my colleague said I could go on my break now so I assumed it was half past without checking the time, I went to grab my bag and my manager (who up until that point had been very...
  2. Flyingheart

    Is anyone here going to Southampton/Solent university this year?

    just saw another thread like this and thought I'd try my luck out too. :/
  3. Flyingheart

    I feel terrible

    I've just started living with 4 other housemates at uni and the first day was fine but this day I don't know what triggered it but I've just not talked at all because social phobia engulfs my every action/thought/emotion. They are really nice as well and considerate, you can tell they are trying...
  4. Flyingheart

    Do you have to be perfect?

    I do, all the time. I feel like if I'm not perfect people will see it and judge. Of course it's all BS because there is no "perfect", but I still feel that way. But I am working on changing that root thought. Just wondering if anyone else felt this way.
  5. Flyingheart

    Do you think this article is true?

    Positive Thinking Articles | The Trick To Change was just browsing and found this article. Do you think it's true in regards to low self esteem/social anxiety and/or depression? I'm not really sure what to think.
  6. Flyingheart

    How do you increase your own self esteem?

    I've tried a lot of things, CBT, telling myself I'm worth it when I think something negative...but the negative thoughts are so addictive. They say that your opinion of yourself should be the one that matters the most but this just makes me feel like I'm being big-headed or something. It's a...
  7. Flyingheart

    Feel better telling friend but not mum?

    It might sound like a silly thing to worry about cos if you feel better it doesn't matter right? Well I told my friend all (mostly) about my SA though I didn't name it as such. I've kept about how I was feeling for 4 years from her. I don't know why, I just felt like it was impossible to open up...
  8. Flyingheart

    Is anyone else overly worried about what other people are thinking of you?

    Just wondering if there was anybody else who felt this way. I try to tell myself the other person is not judging me, but the doubt is always there, that they think I'm weird/stupid or whatever for having done/said something. Usually very minor silly things that you wouldn't even think would...
  9. Flyingheart

    How do you explain to someone you have S.A?

    I want to tell my friend whom I've known for nearly 10 yrs that I have S.A and depression. But I'm scared to death she won't understand or will stop being friends with me. I don't want her viewing me differently either though I know that's impossible. Considering I've kept quiet about it for 4...
  10. Flyingheart

    In need of advice, can't talk to friend anymore?

    I'm going to be meeting my friend tomorrow, the one true friend I've got left and that I haven't shunned due to SA. Thing is, I've always been able to talk to her, she's the only person I can really talk to without feeling uncomfortable and who Social anxiety hasn't rendered me unable to...
  11. Flyingheart

    How do you know that what you really have is S.A?

    Because I've never really been sure what was the matter with me. Before I was 13 everything was fine. I was friendly quite enthusiastic in my studies, albeit shy but I could strike up a conversation with people. Then BAM, for no reason I can pinpoint (and believe me, I've been through...
  12. Flyingheart

    Did you used to be social or were you always SA?

    I'm just curious as to how many people have had SA all their lives or became socially anxious over a time, and if so, what age did you realize? (if you want to say) I still remember being shy but still kind of outgoing if that makes sense, when I was 12. Then after that, a slow but gradual...
  13. Flyingheart

    Is anyone else starting university this year?

    I am, off to Southampton (is anyone near or goes there?) soon and I'm quite literally dreading it, mostly because of having to move out and meet so many new people, like during freshers parties and stuff :S. I know it's meant to be one of the most exciting times of your life, it's just kind of...
  14. Flyingheart

    Does anyone find it really hard to think of something to say, more than normal?

    Hi, I'm new here. I've been following the site for a while but only just decided to register... so hi. I was wondering if anyone finds it difficult to even start a conversation. It never used to be so bad, but now I can hardly speak for fear of making myself look stupid or weird or whatever...
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